Married Bees! What did or didn't you pay attention to on the day of??

posted 2 years ago in Recaps
Post # 2
3280 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I didn’t pay attention to what guests were wearing, who was/wasn’t there (besides people who declined but showed up in our receving line), didn’t notice the centerpieces, cocktail music, the uplights were the wrong color but I could really care less, we were ahead of the timeline but it didn’t matter, doing our vows in front of 300 people didn’t matter/didn’t notice them, we didn’t get our sparkler pics with just the two of us but it didn’t matter. I’m glad I didn’t spend too much time or effort planning because in the end it’s just a day then life moves on!

Post # 3
131 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

My wedding is DIY… I think I will be paying attention to every detail : )

Post # 5
889 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

Grest idea for a thread! I’m interested to see the responses 

Post # 6
746 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

SellyJo:  We had a lot of declines and no-shows, but I didn’t pay attention to who wasn’t there and was actually glad it was a smaller group. I didn’t (but wished I had) pay attention to our sundae bar. I didn’t pay attention to the fact that DH’s grandfather got sick at his table and ended up going to the ER. We just thought he wasn’t feeling well and left…

Post # 7
1007 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Honestly, it was such a blur. I don’t remember the ceremony at all. Apparently our officiant included some verbiage that we didn’t agree to, and neither one of us noticed. Our guests pointed it out the next day bc it was so odd. (We worked with our officiant on an exact script.) I didn’t notice any of the decor…only saw it in pics afterwards. I def could not tell you what anyone was wearing…although I did notice people that no showed (we had a smallish wedding). One big thing I didn’t notice…there were a ton of pictires we forgot 🙁 wish I would have written down a list beforehand. 

Post # 8
3280 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

KateriPetrie:  I gave the DJ a general genre, but honestly I have no idea if he played Ludacris, Elton John, or Jonny Cash haha I was there the whole time and couldn’t tell you a song that was played. 

Post # 9
480 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Actually, I was telling my friends that I feel like I was drunk through the whole wedding because I remember VERY little about it period. I don’t remember the poem the officiant told us (in fact, until a guest said that it was nice, I had totally forgotten about it). I don’t remember what the guests were wearing. I don’t remember the music we had at the reception… I don’t remember the centerpieces, nor the lace on the tables I was so stressed over before the wedding, I don’t remember who danced and who didn’t, what I talked about when we went to each table to thank them for coming. I didn’t eat much, so I don’t remember much about that, but I know people told us it was great. We forgot to “taste” the cake when we cut it, like tradition says. But I remember it was soooooo good! I also remember that I threw the buquet 3 times because I managed to throw it too close to me the first two.


Anyway, I asked my friends about the centerpieces and the lace and all that they didn’t remember it either. People usually remember the food, the music (reception) and the photos. The photos.. I didn’t take photos with many guests because I was so crazy and busy that day that I forgot. I regret not having a pic of my best friend and I alone… And the photos turned out to be very bad, I was very pissed with the photographer because they were just amateur.


Anyway, through the event everybody was trying to tell me stuff, call me, ask about life and drag me to the dance floor though I pretty much didn’t move from there all night. People had fun and danced a lot, told me they loved the music afterwards. Also I remember it took me 40 minutes to get to the toilet because everyone was stopping me on my way.. All in all, the things that I was so preocupied about mattered the less that day. However, now that it’s all done, I miss stressing myself about the wedding and organizing it. I feel empty lol :))

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Post # 10
1566 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

KateriPetrie:  Can’t really detail what I didn’t pay attention to, but here are a few things that I did pay attention to:

– We had specified exactly how many chairs needed to be at each table. They put 2 more chairs at each table, it was a clustered mess of chairs and looked like we had about 40 no-shows.

– The place settings were layered incorrectly, but didn’t make a huge impact on the aesthetics

– There were people (my in-laws) who didn’t get cake because of some mix-up


That’s about it. Everything else was no big deal, and we enjoyed ourselves throroughly.

Post # 11
387 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2014 - Windstar on Naples bay

Hmmm to remember it all, get a videographer! period!

But to be honest, i dont remember much of my day. i remember the important things, like my fahter being so nervous when the pastor asked “who gives this woman away.” and he said me… twice and the pastor kept saying And? and how my husband gingerly took my hand at the alter… i do remember my cernterpieces that my mother lovingly hand made, but only because while waiting for food to be delivered i took the moment to look around the room and just take it in. i dont really remember the toast, it was long. hahaha i remember our first dance and my father daughter dance… i didnt notice the linens, or anything else for that matter decor wise (i didnt go over board but i didnt contemplate things.) im glad i DIY’ed most of it, but im glad i was talked out of expensive invitations, and didnt bother with save the dates (their more headaches then their worth.) im glad my DJ was pro, cause i gave him a list of a few songs (and by few i really mean few) and he jammed the entire night out! he went out of his way to find a special album to play during dinner that i requested and he asked me to make a copy from my cd and i couldnt find it so i was like whatever is fine… and he surprised me with it at the wedding! <3 that had special meaning to me! i remember dancing and laughing and crying over my brothers best friend who cried over me because i was his “sister!” those are the things i remember. i dont remember who wore what, who did and didnt come. (i only missed a few and some couldnt come or i just couldnt afford to invite the others.) i did listen to the pastor, and he was brilliant, i took the time to take the humanity in all of it… spent the time with my grandparents and my new grandmother. 🙂 and other family i never see. i didnt notice anyone getting drunk (save for one or two.) no one did anything embaressing… (except for catching a napkin on fire and i laughed!) it was just beautiful!

dont fret! dont stress! its not worth it! enjoy every minute of it! i miss it now that its gone!

Post # 12
532 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

On the day I really didn’t care about center pieces. Of course it matters that the overall look is nice for the pictures but did I really care what kind of ribbon they wrapped around the vase? No.

Overall it was the decor that I really didn’t even notice on the day but that being said I might have cared if it was hideous.

Post # 13
1193 posts
Bumble bee

KateriPetrie:  I paid attention to my new husband 🙂  It sounds like a joke, but actually, we made it a specific point to spend some time alone and to be together all night long. It was the best!

The day flew by, I just remember having a lot of fun. I didn’t have a care in the world that night and just enjoyed myself with friends and family.

Actually, I do remember that I chose a specific last song and the DJ didn’t play it. But to my point above, I didn’t care! 

Post # 14
9526 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

The things I paid attention to (in chronologic order):

  • Having fun getting ready with my girls and other friends who stopped by our suite. My MOH making sure I sat down and ate something
  • How handsome my husband looked at our First Look
  • Being comfortable with our photog, who was super sweet
  • Having some down time with the bridal party right before the ceremony and celebrating when the rain forcast droppped fown to 0%
  • The aisle decor, mostly because my aunt did it, so I hadn’t even seen it all put together until I was coming down the aisle
  • The ceremony. This was a biggie. I really focused during the whole ceremony and was grateful we had put in the time to make the ceremony right for us
  • The guests – it was absolutely amazing to be surrounded by so much love and support. I was also really glad that we invited kids, they were so much fun. This was the most important thing to me!
  • The dancing. I couldn’t tell you a single song played during cocktail hour (though I spend hours putting together a list) and couldn’t really tell you many played during the reception, but I was super excited that the dance floor was packed for most of the night

I didn’t really notice much of the decor that I had spent hours making, other than being grateful that it all got put up correctly by my DOC. I know the food was good, but I was too excited to pay much attention to it. Really, I just wanted to spend time with all my loved ones. I was incredibly grateful to my DOC, because she allowed me to not worry about anything wedding related and just focus on having fun and visiting with everyone.

Post # 15
143 posts
Blushing bee

-Who showed up and with whom and what they were wearing

-Exact song choices DJ played – if it was good, I danced

-The appetizers during cocktail hour – I wish I had at least tried one, but we were making our rounds saying hi to everyone

-The front or entry of our venue – how it looked or how it flowed with guests

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