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I think their first names are fine. I call my inlaws by their first names.
We are all adults, adults call each other by their first names! :)
By their first names!
I always have and always will!
I call my in laws by their first names, have for years actually. I used to call my fil Mr ___ but he said that made him feel old and no one who is his family should call him that, so I dropped the Mr. Hubs calls my mom Mom (most of my friends do, so its not really weird, plus his mom isn't really in his life) and my dad by his first name.
I call my inlaws by their first names too. That's how I was introduced to them. I think they'd prefer me to call them Mom and Dad, but it's just weird for me. They sign their cards "Mom and Dad (First names)."
I call my inlaws Mom D and Dad D. I don't feel comfortable just calling them mom and dad, but I personally would feel disrespectful calling them by their first names.
I call my future in-laws by their first names. I got away with just not directly addressing them for a while (it was amusing..) until they finally just said "You know, you can just call us ____ and ____". Totally works!
First names--but my Fi's grandparents I call "grampy" and "Mom" like he does. My own grandparents live far away and I have lunch with Grampy a lot so they have become like my own grandparents.
Not married yet but FI and I have been together for 6 years so I feel I’m qualified to answer this…
I call them by their first names. Always have and always will. I could never fathom calling my FIL’s Mr. & Mrs. __________. I realize this is the norm in some areas and cultures but I could never do it. I would also never call them “Mom and Dad”. I have my own parents and I feel it’s disrespectful to those who actually raised me.
Mom & Dad.
When we were dating, I never really had to address them... it always DH's mom or DH's dad, as they referred to each other around me. Post-wedding, I've started to call them mom & dad.
DH has always called my parents "umma" and "appa" Mom & Dad in Korean, because they were out of state when we had first started dating, and we were pretty serious/engaged by the time they settled back in MI.
works out easily for us = mom&dad is ILs | umma&appa = my parents :D
oh good! i'm glad to know im not alone on this one! def sticking with the first names then - maybe one day i'll feel comfortable with mom and dad but not yet...
I didnt realize people of married age (or even like college age) call peoples parents by Mr. and Mrs _________ still! I have always called my in laws by their first names and I always will. I dont think I could ever call them mom and dad!
FI still calls my parents Mr. & Mrs. Last Name and so far I gave gotten away with not calling his parents anything. His mother wants me to already call her Mom because she calls me her Daughter. Which I think is nice... I just don't think I will ever be able to call her mom! Maybe I can sneak in a Ronda somewhere and see what she says.
I called mine mr and mrs xxxxxxx until we got engaged, then I went with first names. one time my FMIL texted me and signed it "momma firstname" and I thought it was adorable and awkward lol
@PitBulLover: We're married, I still call them Mr. and Mrs. XXXXXXXXXX. I don't know. I do it out of respect I suppose. They have never told me not to do that, so I will continue to do it otherwise. My Dad brought me up that way.
My husband called my Dad Mr. XXXXXX and my Dad was told him, please, don't call me that, call me Charlie.
After we're married I'm going to call them Mom & Dad...and I really want my FI to call my parents the same! I think it's so sweet.
I'm not married yet but have been with my FI for 8 years. I have always called them by their first names, and they don't mind at all :) It will always be like this.. even after we get married. "mom and dad" are what I call my own parents.
Yeah.....when I first met my husbands parents they introduced themselves as Mr. & Mrs. ____ and even when talking about each other they would say "its Mr.___'s birthday instead of its "first name's" birthday.
We have been married for over a year & I still don't know if they would be upset if I called them by their first names - my inlaws are very particular, and get offended over weird things, so I am unsure. It just feels weird to say Mrs. ____ when now I'm Mrs.___ too.
So all in all, I just avoid saing their names, it works out pretty well :)
Since the day I met my in laws I've always called them by their first names!!
@deetroitwhat: no, I mean I was raised to call elders by Mr. or Mrs as well but I guess once you become an adult I dont really feel its necessary.
I've always called my mother and father in law by their first names, but I call his grandparents Mr. and Mrs. out of respect. It would feel weird calling anyone but my own parents Mom and Dad, and I wouldn't want my husband to call my parents that either. It feels forced.
I use first names too. That's the norm among my friends. My mom used to call her in-laws (my grandparents) Mr. and Mrs. XXXX, but that sounds so old-fashioned and formal to me.
@PitBulLover: Ya, but they're still older than me =P I am also a ma'am and sir type person (thank you, Air Force) so that probably has a lot to do with it too.
I call them all by their first names, I don't awkwardly try to not address them. If DH and I ever have kids I will call them all "Grandma" or "Grandpa". I don't think it's respectful to MY parents to call my inlaws Mom and Dad, but that's just me. I know my SIL calls them Mom and Dad and I don't think that's strange, but she's also known them for a lot longer than I have (since she was like 14) so it makes more sense for her.
I call them by their first names, unless any of our nephews are around, and then it's Nana and Pop-Pop.
We have been dating for 9 years and will be married on our 10 year anniversary. I ahve always called them Mr. & Mrs and have never been invited to call them anything else. My parents asked my fiance to call them by their first names the first time they meet. Until I am asked to call them something different I will continue to call them Mr & Mrs.
I have to admit that I irked that I have not been invtied to call them by their first names. It HAS been 9 years!!!
I try not to call them anything. It's pretty annoying because we see them a lot, and I am always trying to figure out how to get their attention without saying their names. I started out calling them Mr. and Mrs. when I first met them years ago, expecting them to say "oh call us [first names]" but they never did. Now FFIL will sometimes sign e-mails Mr. X. I feel like it is so formal and impersonal, and I feel awkward about it now.
ETA: Same here Mrs. Valentin! I am a little peeved about it too. FH and I have been dating for over 5 years and we see them once a week.
I just started calling his dad "Papa" (which is nice because then I have "dad" for my dad)...his mom I call "M" -- Her name starts with M but we also decided that it could be short for Mom too! Hehe we have known each other professionally for about 12 years before Mr. Ninja and I got together, so we are trying to figure out how to be ok being so personal with one another.
That being said, I think I have the BEST in-laws ever! :-)
By their first names. But my FI calls them by their first names too, so does his brother.
Not married yet, but after 7 years together we're pretty established on this one :-) They will always be first name and first name to me, since we'd all been family friends before dating. There was never any meeting the parents awkwardness, I'd just always known them by first name.
Mr.ND calls my mom 'Mom' every once in a while, but I think it's because I'm 1 of 4 kids, so when we're all together, she's getting called Mom every-which-way and he just joins in :-) He's an only child, so it's fun for him to be in the 'big gang.'
We're not married yet, but I call them Pat to their face (Patrick and Patricia...they both go by Pat!) and Mr. Pat & Mrs. Pat when referring to them in conversation. I've even heard their grandchildren refer to them as such : )
I call them by their first names. DH calls my parents by their first names too.
I would find it kind of disrespectful to my own parents to call my in-laws mom and dad. And Mr. and Mrs. is just way to formal to me. They are family and I don't call anyone else in my family Mr. and Mrs. so why would I be super formal with my in-laws?!?
I have always called them by their first names. They insisted on it when we first met. :) I don't think I could call them mom and dad since I already have a mom and dad.
When we were in high school I called my FI's parents Mr. and Mrs. last name, but once we graduated I started calling them by their first name and they're totally fine with that. FI calls my mom mama herlastname, and my (step) dad Paul.
I'm one of those people that don't call them anything...but if I had to I would call them by their first names.
@junebug12 I did the same thing for like four years.. I dont think anyone ever noticed that I never directly referred to them as anything.
Now I call them by their first names.
When we were dating I called them by their first names. I tried calling them Mom & Dad after the wedding, but I don't know how long it will last...it is still really weird.
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i was at my in-laws house last night (first time we have seen them since the wedding and returning from our honeymoon) and the subject of "what will you call us" came up - AWKWARD - i do not like Mr. and Mrs. XXXXXXX - its just seems too impersonal to me. MIL told me that their other daughter in law calls them mom and dad but if i didnt feel comfortable then thats ok. their son in law uses Mr. and Mrs XXXXXX - i decided that im just goint to call them by their first names...is that disrespectful?
i feel like ever since i started dating their son i called them by their frist names.
anyway - it made me curious - What do you call your in laws?