Post # 1
i was at my in-laws house last night (first time we have seen them since the wedding and returning from our honeymoon) and the subject of “what will you call us” came up – AWKWARD – i do not like Mr. and Mrs. XXXXXXX – its just seems too impersonal to me. MIL told me that their other daughter in law calls them mom and dad but if i didnt feel comfortable then thats ok. their son in law uses Mr. and Mrs XXXXXX – i decided that im just goint to call them by their first names…is that disrespectful?
i feel like ever since i started dating their son i called them by their frist names.
anyway – it made me curious – What do you call your in laws?
Post # 3
I think their first names are fine. I call my inlaws by their first names.
We are all adults, adults call each other by their first names! 🙂
Post # 4
By their first names!
I always have and always will!
Post # 5
I call my in laws by their first names, have for years actually. I used to call my fil Mr ___ but he said that made him feel old and no one who is his family should call him that, so I dropped the Mr. Hubs calls my mom Mom (most of my friends do, so its not really weird, plus his mom isn’t really in his life) and my dad by his first name.
Post # 6
I call my inlaws by their first names too. That’s how I was introduced to them. I think they’d prefer me to call them Mom and Dad, but it’s just weird for me. They sign their cards “Mom and Dad (First names).”
Post # 7
I call my inlaws Mom D and Dad D. I don’t feel comfortable just calling them mom and dad, but I personally would feel disrespectful calling them by their first names.
Post # 8
I call my future in-laws by their first names. I got away with just not directly addressing them for a while (it was amusing..) until they finally just said “You know, you can just call us ____ and ____”. Totally works!
Post # 9
First names–but my Fi’s grandparents I call “grampy” and “Mom” like he does. My own grandparents live far away and I have lunch with Grampy a lot so they have become like my own grandparents.
Post # 10
Not married yet but FI and I have been together for 6 years so I feel I’m qualified to answer this…
I call them by their first names. Always have and always will. I could never fathom calling my FIL’s Mr. & Mrs. __________. I realize this is the norm in some areas and cultures but I could never do it. I would also never call them “Mom and Dad”. I have my own parents and I feel it’s disrespectful to those who actually raised me.
Post # 11
I call my MIL mom, and FIL dad. It’s a respect thing.
Post # 12
Mom & Dad.
When we were dating, I never really had to address them… it always DH’s mom or DH’s dad, as they referred to each other around me. Post-wedding, I’ve started to call them mom & dad.
DH has always called my parents “umma” and “appa” Mom & Dad in Korean, because they were out of state when we had first started dating, and we were pretty serious/engaged by the time they settled back in MI.
works out easily for us = mom&dad is ILs | umma&appa = my parents 😀
Post # 13
oh good! i’m glad to know im not alone on this one! def sticking with the first names then – maybe one day i’ll feel comfortable with mom and dad but not yet…
Post # 14
I didnt realize people of married age (or even like college age) call peoples parents by Mr. and Mrs _________ still! I have always called my in laws by their first names and I always will. I dont think I could ever call them mom and dad!
Post # 15
FI still calls my parents Mr. & Mrs. Last Name and so far I gave gotten away with not calling his parents anything. His mother wants me to already call her Mom because she calls me her Daughter. Which I think is nice… I just don’t think I will ever be able to call her mom! Maybe I can sneak in a Ronda somewhere and see what she says.
Post # 16
I called mine mr and mrs xxxxxxx until we got engaged, then I went with first names. one time my FMIL texted me and signed it “momma firstname” and I thought it was adorable and awkward lol