Post # 1
Has anyone gone through that make-or-break point in their marriage or relationship, the point where the “for better or for worse” part of your vows were echoing loudly in your ears?
What was your “for worse”, and how did you move past it? Are you happy you moved on, or are you still bitter about it?
Post # 3
I’m grateful that our first year (and a month) of marriage has been pretty easy. I’m sure our “for worse” is still to come!
Post # 4
I was married for a year and a half when I was diagnosed with stage 3 breast cancer. It really reinforced for me that I married an amazing man. He’s been my biggest support through all this and I think that if we can get past this, we can get through anything to come!
Post # 5
My deadbeat father in law lived with us for over a year and we finally kicked him out about 4 months into the marriage thank GOD. We’re still paying his rent and basically keeping him alive, but whatever, he’s out of my damn house, so I’m 10x happier than I was when we was living with us!
@misslene: Aw, that’s so amazing! I had a cervical cancer scare before we got married and my husband was more supportive and wonderful than I could have hoped. You got yourself a good one!
Post # 6
Our for worse happened before we got married and it was in law related. It’s a long story, but if you are curious its the first thread I posted on here.
Post # 7
Bump because I would love to hear more inspiring stories about toughing it out 🙂
Post # 8
Our for worse right now is DH’s unemployment. He’s had a lot a great interviews, and we’re hoping something happens soon. It’s really not that bad – he’s getting unemployment, and I make enough, so we’re not struggling. It’s more his feelings about it, and how it’s affecting him personally. We have a baby on the way, so he needs to feel like he’s helping provide for his family. And he’s pretty miserable staying at home all the time.
Post # 9
Our “for worse” was when I became ill and for 18 months completely physically disabled. In and out of hospitals, wheelchairs, I ended up addicted to prescription pills, etc etc. But honestly, our relationship never really suffered, it just brought us closer together. Now we’re just waiting for the “for better” part. ;P
Post # 10
Still in the process of moving on. I’m just happy that I have a partner that is working as hard as I am to move on! It hasn’t been easy but we both included wording in the vows regarding the “work” that it would take to stay together.
Post # 11
I would add unemployment/financial issues to your poll and also maybe TTC/infertility/adoption stress.
I’m sure our “for worse” hasn’t happened yet.
Post # 12
So far it was his 9 months of unemployment combined with his chronic depression and anxiety. It was a very tough time for us and things between became very bad. He has a job now and has relocated, so he’s now a few hours away. We’re working through it and working on ourselves, but it isn’t really easy. He has also started treatment for his mental health issues, so that is helping too.
Post # 13
We aren’t even married yet- FI has been unemployed for two years and even though i make good money, its hard, because there are things we just cannot afford to do- he feels guilty about it, and I feel hopeless. But we are still together and will be – it never occurred to me that he wouldn’t be the right guy for me because thigns aren’t perfect.
Post # 14
Our “for worse” was before the marriage started – the combination of my DH’s unemployment and his severe depression and anxiety. He’s got a good job now, thankfully. The latter is still not being treated properly, but it’s much, much better than it was a year and a half ago.
Post # 15
@LaCroix: I will be getting married in 12 days!!!
However, I’ll answer this question based on my former marriage.
The worse was emotional abuse and drug addiction. I actually left him. It was “bad” enough to kill the entire marriage.
Post # 16
I would not claassify this situation as “bad”, but we had to take in a family member’s 2 year old daughter. It was supposed to be for three months. Now we know she will be here through New Years. Hell, we might have her forever!! Her parents are not exactly stable…
It is a big adjustment. Sailor and I were only married for 8 months before she came. I then found out I was pregnant a month later. So we’ve gone from Newlyweds to the parents of two children.
We are struggling financially, but I love my husband sooo much. No onther man I know would take in a child and love them as their own!