Post # 1
For those of you who have already said your “I do’s” – please share a little advice with those of us who are working our way to our big day. What were some of the things now that your ceremony is over that you realize you could have done without or that wasn’t nearly as big of a deal as you initially made it out to be? I think this type of information will be helpful.
Post # 3
That’s what I’d like to know. I had a post like it but it got no responses. Very interested in knowing what we should save our money on and do without. On the flip side, (hope OP doesn’t mind) what are absolute MUST HAVES??
Post # 4
I will say we DIDNT have favors and no one missed them. I’m really glad I saved a lot of money and spent minimal on paper stuff. STD’s, invites, programs, and even place cards etc. Overall, I’m glad we had everything that we did, but we didn’t go overboard on detail stuff that no one would notice but us…
Post # 5
Well….here’s my take on it. My husband and I married a few times. The first was a private JOP so we could purchase our home together, which was a must for the loan. The second was our big one; the one that we’d spent over a year and thousands of dollars on with all the favors and the dresses and the flowers and whatnots. The third was a church ceremony so my Catholic husband could receive the sacrament and they would recognize us as married and he could start taking communion again. I wore an adorable pink dress from Ross that cost me $35.00, a birdcage veil, and I did my own make up. Afterward, we had our family and a few friends over to our new place for cheese, crackers, and cupcakes. That one was my favorite.
ETA: Here’s what I would have done differently:I would have had a big party. I would marry in the church in the spring or early summer when it was really warm, and I would have a BBQ at our house and lots of people over. I’d have paper plates and picnic baskets and a water balloon fight. I would get a bouncy house for the kids, and there would be games for everyone to play and I would only think about how much fun I was going to have.
Also, I’d have minimal flowers. I’d use books or candles for centerpieces instead.
Post # 6
I think i’m definitely going to forgo favors – one less thing to cleanup afterwards. i’ve heard a lot of tales about those being left on tables. I am not sure if I’m going to do programs or not – ours is a very small ceremony, <60 guests. Thanks for the input!
Post # 7
@souliganprincess:I don’t think I’ll do programs either. Ours is small too (75 guests) and won’t have any performers or singers or anything. We aren’t having a wedding party so I don’t think we need programs. Not sure what we’d put on them if we had them. LOL.
Post # 8
@katieebee: I don’t think i really understand about programs either. I mean, when people come, they know they are coming for a wedding, so it’s not like they need a brochure to walk them through it. I am sure they are useful for more involved ceremonies that have different types of things such as ring warming ceremonies, etc, but for a simple one like mine I think I’m ok with just skipping it.
Post # 9
I spent so much time and energy on my programs, and most of them were left over. Only a few people noticed/were interested (women, of course). I would say if you have them, keep them very simple (like, a single page) and don’t make too many. Maybe 20% of the people took one during the wedding, and only a few took them home.
Post # 10
We didn’t have favors or programs or any of it, and everything was fine.
Post # 11
this post is great! more more more!
Post # 12
We cut programs from the get-go. We had our siblings standing up for us so hopefully everyone knew who they were : ) I am pretty sure no one missed that.
We also didn’t splurge for nicer chairs/seating. I don’t think anyone was uncomfortable. It may have looked nicer, but it wasn’t a must have.
I also skipped on paying someone to do my makeup. I thought that on my wedding day I should look the most like my usual self and not feel like I had layers of makeup caked on. I don’t feel like I missed out on anything by doing it myself.
We also skipped on a lot of cheesy wedding things like personalized champagne flutes and personalized cake knife…no biggie. No one would have known except us.
Post # 13
A desert bar in addition to wedding cakem. Place. Cards- chart wouldve been better and save time. Favors!! So many ppl looked at em and thought they were pretty but they didn’t take em with them! Grrrrr! Expensive stationary got thrown away!
Advice- save money on invites!
Post # 14
Second time around for me, and we are skipping everything by eloping… but first time there was plenty that was left out or could have been left out!
-we made programs, but forgot them at home. they weren’t missed!
-we had chocolates for favours, but they melted a few days before. Not only did I end up eating way too much melted chocolate, but my mom made fish-shaped cookies as replacement favors and they really didn’t look or taste good
-we skipped bar and dance- if your crowd aren’t a bunch of partiers (or if they party too too much) sometimes it’s wise to limit alcohol and flailing limbs
-skipped the florist. Florals are a great DIY area if you’re not going big or elaborate
-save the dates? we just called people. they have pens and calendars. they also liked hearing from us!
-shower? bachelorette? rehearsal dinner? nope. we did a rehearsal in his backyard and had a BBQ.
-the only thing that was skipped that shouldn’t have been, was a good photographer!
(I can’t afford one this time around either, and honestly who’s going to hire $2000-3000+ photographer to shoot a $500 elopement morning? I’m going with one who is just getting into weddings, 4 hrs for $150, but she will provide 150-200 images and edit about 30, providing all on cd so I can edit the rest as I please… we will see!
Post # 15
I skipped a lot on my wedding. The only important, vital things to me were my dress, the food (a duo of filet mignon and chicken for all 30 guests), and the groom! I’m very frugal and we were paying for the wedding ourselves. I don’t regret keeping things low key. Here’s what I skipped:
ceremony music (I got married outdoors and didn’t have any music for walking down the aisle)
floral decorations (I did have flowers for me and moms, and Maid/Matron of Honor and boutineers, but my centerpieces were simple fake flowers)
my dj was a guy I knew from work, otherwise I would have gone the Ipod route
photographer (this was the most shocking to people, but I don’t regret not having one. We saved a ton of money just having friends and family take pictures and e-mail them to us later. Photography was not important to me at all.
fancy invitations (we got a kit from Walmart and printed them ourselves)
limo (my brother drove me in his suv)
Things my mother bought because she was appalled that we didn’t have these (because I didn’t care about them):
Post # 16
I can’t think of very many.
Didn’t have and didn’t miss:
Cake – We had a dessert bar instead and we didn’t have a cake cutting.
Garter – I only had one, the toss.
Did have and loved:
Favors – They were scarves and 95% of them were taken
Programs – I made them special with sewing details