married bees! what would you change at your wedding if you could go back in time

posted 2 years ago in Beehive
Post # 2
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Honestly, the only thing I would change is not inviting certain people. There were family members that I had to invite out of obligation, but looking back, I don’t care about those people and I wish I didn’t invite them. 

Post # 3
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Bumble bee

Can’t really think of anything big.  I think the one thing I would do is make sure there was more dancy music that older folks and younger folks could enjoy…like Chuck Berry You Never Can Tell, that got everyone dancing.  Some of newer music and hip hop cleared the older folks and when the younger ones went out for a smoke or whatever, it was just me and my bridesmaids holding the dance floor up.  It was the MOST fun having everyone dancing!

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

My popcorn bar was hidden in the back and the DJ didnt make the announcement loud enough so no one knew.  I would have had the venue put the cart in the reception space instead of by the bar. 

Post # 5
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

On hindsight, the only thing I would have changed about my first wedding was the groom. LOL

I wouldn’t change a thing about my second, including the groom.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

SisterJude:  ‘we are family’ got everyone on the dance floor at my reception. 

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I did a destination wedding in Mexico and I regretted choosing August. We were SO HOT!! Haha it was all good but that’s the one major thing I’d change.

Post # 8
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I would have gone with a pro photog. We got some really pretty photos, but I feel like the camera was focused way more on me than on my husband, and I am severely lacking in family photos which is really disappointing.

That and I wouldn’t have binged on wine and cookies the night before 😉

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I probably would’ve made my hair appointment sooner so that I wasn’t limited to a specific time, that ultimately led to us not having as much time to plan out different pictures in between the ceremony & reception. I got over 1000 pictures back but there were some special poses I wish I’d have had time to think about reminding my photographer of. But that’s about it. I didn’t schedule with my hair girl enough in advance so I was limited to 1 time slot.  But having another hair girl wasn’t even an option!  I had to have mine! But oh well. I had a videographer so I guess ‘perfect poses’ wasn’t 100% necessary. 

Post # 10
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Helper bee

I Probably would have chosen another photographer, as we missed lots of important shots. I would have given my MOH a personality transplant for the day! I would not have wasted time perfecting the take home gifts, as not many took them home. I wish lots people took photos cause hardly anyone did. If we had the budget we would have loved a videographer. I would have really loved to have felt stress free. Would also have liked it to be less windy as all I did during the ceremony was brush my hair away from my face! Umm i could probably go on, but it will get me down!

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014 - Sedona Golf Resort

LittleKBee:  you sound like me minus the MOH! 

I would have spent more time and money pampering myself. I planned the wedding by myself and since it was somewhat of a destination wedding, I was more concerned about my guests comfort than my own. I didn’t hire anyone to do my hair or make-up and wish I had. I do great make-up but it hardly looks like I have any on in the pics and it was so windy my hair was a mess!! 

My photographer missed a ton of shots and I actually hated about 75% of my photos, so if I could do over I’d hire a better photographer. 

I also spent most of my reception budget on the bar, should have just done beer and wine and added more food. Not everyone drinks like a fish like me :). 

Overall it was a wonderful day but hindsight can drive you nuts. 

Im sure your day will be perfect-just make taking care you a priority. 

  • This reply was modified 1 year, 10 months ago by  vllister.
Post # 13
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Helper bee

vllister:  Lol.  Yeah I wish that I had focused more on myself too, other than stressing about everyone else.  I feel like i didn’t really enjoy my day at all and only remember the stressing bits!! My MOH was a real pain and nasty at times to me on the day which was the main issue.  To be honest I wish I drank like a fish on the day so I could have relaxed!! Lol.  I only drank half a glass of wine the whole entire day!!!! Didn’t even eat much of my dinner either!!  Anyway it’s over and done with, can’t do it again.  But advise mainly is to just relax and take it all in – but sometimes thats easier said than done! 

Post # 14
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Worker bee

Fall_In_Love22:  this is my answer as well. I had a small wedding and had a guest (grown woman) who literally did her best to make it all about her and threw a tantrum.  I know social graces and all dictate family should be invited but if I had it to do over I would have never sent the invite. Live and learn I guess and everyone has that something that they’d do different 

Post # 15
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Worker bee

Wear my grandmother’s earrings and not let my mother in law make a speech.

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