Married Bees: When do the "No" RSVPs come in {Poll}

posted 3 years ago in Logistics
  • poll: When did your "No" RSVPs come in
    Yes, most of our "No's" came in right before the RSVP date or never came in at all : (18 votes)
    43 %
    No, there did not seem to be any specific time when the "No" RSVPs came in : (24 votes)
    57 %
  • Post # 2
    Member
    2062 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    I’m not married yet, but we have been getting RSVPs back for a few weeks and haven’t noticed a pattern – some people said no straight off if they knew they couldn’t come already, others have taken longer, some people are still waiting to hear about work shifts etc. So I think declines could come at any time. 

    Post # 3
    Member
    4690 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY

    I found that the No’s did come in later than the Yes’s- right around RSVP time, but not all of them. People in general don’t like to say no so they put it off. I’ve heard in the South it’s common to never send in a No (but that might be Bee hearsay).

    Post # 6
    Member
    3560 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    Most of our no’s came in toward the end, definitely. I remember I was freaking out because we weren’t getting any no’s for a long time and we were counting on a certain percentage to not come (to ensure everyone would fit in the venue—not a good plan I know…), but it all worked out!

    Post # 8
    Member
    1773 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    We received a small handful of nos very early on but most nos came after our RSVP deadline and most of our no rsvps were verbal/text/pm in response to us (or my parents) asking directly. Ppl felt bad and didn’t want to say no. 

    we aren’t married yet, but have over 180 rsvps of 213 invited. About 50 of our 70 no rsvps came after the deadline. 

    • This reply was modified 2 years, 11 months ago by  Shkragoldfish.
    Post # 9
    Member
    25 posts
    Newbee

    We’re not married yet but we received a few nos right off the bat due to vacations already planned. Though we are getting who are giving RSVPs to our parents rather than tell us themselves. That’s how I found out half my family won’t be attending.

    Post # 10
    Member
    1239 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    Our experience was similar to other Bees. I think there are usually a few no’s up front from the people who know for sure that they have a scheduling conflict or can’t swing the travel. The rest of the no’s will trickle in toward the end of the RSVP window as the people who were on the fence or trying to make it realize that they can’t. We also had to follow up with several people who forgot to RSVP — those were mostly no’s for us, although YMMV. 

    Post # 13
    Member
    3001 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    We just finished our RSVPs.  Most Nos were towards the end, and quite a few we had to track down or assume as Nos.  I think we got 1 no the first week, compared to about 20 yeses.   For the first month, I did a bit of a dance when the No’s came in.  There was no single person we wanted to say no, but we had assumed that there would be declines, and it didn’t feel like we were getting any. 

    Post # 14
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    2127 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    julesbeeb:  i didnt get a lot of people who rsvped at all. i would say maybe 25% actually did. maybe 35% but when it came to the wedding day i was surprized at how many people were there and didnt tell me. i have to guess when it came to food and booze. luckily it all worked out and we were stuck with a keg forever!! 

    Post # 15
    Member
    25 posts
    Newbee

    julesbeeb:  We have until June 1st for our RSVP deadline and are starting to wonder if the rest of the people we invited are even going to respond. Alot of people have just assumed that we would know they were coming. Be prepared for those too!

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