(Closed) Married Bees who didn't live together before married…

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: How has living together now that you are married been?
    Better than expected : (8 votes)
    25 %
    Different than expected : (2 votes)
    6 %
    About the same as I expected : (4 votes)
    13 %
    More challenging than I expected : (8 votes)
    25 %
    Other... : (3 votes)
    9 %
    Glad we waited! : (5 votes)
    16 %
    Wish we hadn't waited! : (2 votes)
    6 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    6015 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: March 2012

    he’s WAY more messier than i thought .. . seriously … meeeesssssy. Other than that … meh that was the big thing. HE”S MESSY… lol 😀

    Post # 4
    Member
    4662 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    totally happy about waiting.

    it gives you something more to look forward to. mind, you, we spent all weekends together at either of our places before we were married, but it’s not the same as LIVING together. and that has been fabulous.

    Post # 5
    Member
    806 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    im not married yet but we are waiting, and we spend every weekend together staying at each others houses so that gives me a good feel of the type of person he is even though i know he cleans up because im coming over. he is messy so i expect that. and he leaves cabinet doors open which bugs me. but i can deal with it…and make fun of him. hes a work in progress lol. but i cant wait to move in

    Post # 6
    Member
    1251 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2009

    It’s actually way, way better than I had anticipated. He cleans, does laundry, helps cook, and isn’t a slob (which is good, lol). The only thing that gets me is his SNORING. ARRRRRGH, I can’t get to sleep because of it. I now take melatonin tablets to ‘knock me out’ so I can get some rest. Haha.

    Post # 7
    Member
    244 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I am glad we waited and would reccomend that to any bride!

    DH lived with his parents up until our wedding and I had my own apt. This might sound so dumb…but it was SOOOOO exciting clearing space in my closet to hang his clothes, and shopping for new underwears and socks for him…..and seeing his toothbrush at the sink for the first time. Lol. I’m serious. It was really special and I wouldn’t trade that time in the beginning where we were figuring things out and getting used to sleeping next to each other for anything! The smallest things were so fun.

    I will always hold that time close to my heart.

    I think without that kind of experience you get jipped one of the most speccial and precious times of your married life. When you’re just so happy to be married and to just be together.

    Post # 8
    Member
    384 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    Only waited (still waiting) to live together after marriage because of immigration issues. Otherwise wish we had long ago! 

    Post # 9
    Member
    9234 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

    @mrshoneybee:  I dunno, I had that exact same experience too.  I mean we weren’t married, but we were deeply in love and it was so exciting to wake up and go to bed next to each other, etc.  I think it’s probably super exciting and special whenever you move in with your life partner – you can’t ever get “jipped”.

    Post # 10
    Member
    1294 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    omg ! this makes my heart MELT thinking about it! I am SOOOOO excited to get married and move into a home together !

    Post # 11
    Member
    1426 posts
    Bumble bee

    I think it’s different for every couple.  For us, it was such a big transition and definitely a challenge.  IMO, our biggest downfall was that DH had never truely lived on his own, he had been living with MIL for quite a few years when he left Uni and took over the farm.  I mean, he’s very responsible, he’s the one to pay the bills, etc; it was more so the little chores around the house like laundry and cleaning.

    It’s been a year now and we’ve developed our own little groove.  Sometimes, I still feel like I’m walking on egg shells, but its getting better.  I wouldn’t have necessarily wanted us to live together before we got married, just that he would have had time by himself…

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