(Closed) married by a priest not in a church?

posted 5 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Depends on the denomination. A priest, not usually, because priests are Catholic and Catholic churches generally refuse to officiate weddings that are not in a church. But DH is Lutheran and the pastor in his church was more than happy to officiate a ceremony outside of the church. He married us at our reception venue.

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

A pastor, yes, it is possible you would just need to find the right one. But to a priest (when I say priest I;m assuming Catholic since that’s what most priests are) it is a sin to get married outside of the church unless there are super extreme circumstances like someone is extremely ill and they need to be wed in the hospital.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

We had a close family friend marry us. She is an Episcopalian preist. I dont know if she would have married somoene else outside the church or not, but our families are very close (one of her daughters was a BM in fact)

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I have never heard of that happening with a priest.  Many Protestant ministers will do so, but not Catholic priests.  I think there are a few outdoor shrines where you can be married by a Catholic priest, but that is about it.

If I understand right, the reasoning is because marriage is a sacrament and sacraments are generally (with a few exceptions) celebrated in a church. 

If you are Catholic (not sure from your posting) and you really don’t want to have your ceremony in a church, there is the possibility that you can have your marriage convalidated later in the church.  However, I would definitely talk to a priest about this before you assume you can do it.  Some priests are not happy about doing one just because you wanted to marry in a different venue….but others are more flexible and are happy to see a marriage be made sacramental, no matter why it wasn’t done that way originally.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

A Catholic wedding?  No.  A Protestant wedding?  Yes.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

You can get a retired Catholic priest to marry you. Many of these priests have left to marry, or because they no longer felt right leading a parish or wearing a collar. They are a great way to have a religious ceremony without doing it in a church. 

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