(Closed) Married for 2 years and always fighting….

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
5670 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

So sorry this is happening. My only advice is to see a couples therapist. You owe it to both of you to get some outside help from a professional to help you work through your issues.

Post # 5
591 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

My husband and I have been together for 6+ years and we’ve gone through patches where it seemed like we fought over everything. Usually its because there is some deeper issue that hasn’t been brought up yet. So sit down and talk about what is really bothering each of you. LISTEN to each other. What does he do that bothers you and vice versa. My husband pointed out once that I argue with everything (a trait I’ve since learned i got from my mom, aaah!) and so i pay special attention to that now and try not to do so. Arguing about him buying you a fancy purse might be a case of that. Also, pick your battles. You can be annoyed at times but try to keep it in for his sake, its one of those things that isn’t worth starting a fight over so just learn to let things go.

As far as attraction, do you go out on ‘dates’ together, do things together that you did when you were first together, get dressed up for him ever, wear lingerie, etc. etc. Try something new in the bedroom to bring that spark back.

If you are both uncomfortable with how you look why not start going on walks together every night or join a gym together? Do something to change it?

Post # 6
429 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

Sorry you are going through this but Im just going to echo Previous posts about seeing a therapist. It seems like you guys have deeper issues than anger and stubbornness. Does he know you feel not good enough? Does he know you are not happy with your sex life? All these and more questions need to be addressed out in the open where a neutral party can help ya’s. Dont give up without exploring your options, there are ways to save a marriage, it doesnt seem like its one partner or the other or anything further than yelling. I wouldnt say there are any big red flags that would cause you to walk away, it seems like you both have things to work on and doing it together can make you stronger than you ever have been. Good Luck

Post # 7
1513 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

i second counseling. if he wont go with you, go yourself. if nothing else it might help you deal with your own temper and stubborn tendencies, hopefully cutting the hot headedness in half.

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