Mr TTR and I have been married since Christmastime… but we’ve been together for years… so “the new-ness” of living together has worn off a bit… but here are some things that we do do together (intentionally or otherwise) that keep our relationship grounded & focussed
1- We have Date Night. It might not always be a pre-planned evening on the Calendar, but it happens at least once a week where we have a “Special” Dinner (Eat Out or Order In). We eat out a lot (couple times of week)… sometimes with another Couple(s), and sometimes with Friends (usually ties into one of our social activities, either as a couple or solo). BUT we always make sure we have one “special” meal a week that is just for the 2 of us… be that going out somewhere, or ordering in. A meal that we can spend talking to one another over, no distractions.
2- We grocery shop together. It is a chore that neither of us mind doing. But it can be more fun when done together. We seem to always have a lot of laughs at the Grocery Store. Makes the chore easier and the time together doing it meaningful.
3- We unpack the groceries together too. I organize all the items into groups (Freezer – Fridge – Deli Drawer – Crispers – Veggie Bins – Bread Box – Pantry) while he does a quick once thru the Fridge to toss out anything that has gone bad, and move things around so that we have a first-in & first-out set-up. Lol, when’s he done that, he takes a cold beer out of the fridge and heads to the Tv, while I take my now organized groups and stow them away where they go.
4- We keep a Need To Buy List on the Fridge
5- On Garbage & Recycling Day, he brings the Recycling Bins into the house, and I quickly sort thru them to make sure all the right stuff is in the right ones (One Week is Paper Products, and the next one Containers). I also do a look around the house to see if we have any items to add (inevitibly there is an empty shampoo container / paper towel roll or whatever to be found). In the meantime, he’s collected the Garbage from the various spots in the house… Kitchen, Laundry, Bathrooms, Garage etc. While he takes that outside to the curb, I round up the last of the Compostables for the Green Bin. Then he takes ALL the Recyclables for the week outside to the curb as well. Makes easy work of another monotonous chore.
6- I strip the Bed to wash the sheets, but we make it together when we put on the new ones. Mr TTR hates this job. I’m not sure why… but he always complains. I find it easier to do it with him than on my own (probably because we have such a frickin thick mattress).
7- Fold Sheets… this one always sees him making funny faces. Truth is tho, sheets are nicer when they are folded up right out of the dryer… and it is easier to do when there is more than one person involved… especially for fitted sheets.
8- Lol, we kind of garden together… in that I do all the plant research… and then plan out our landscaping / backyard plan for the summer ahead of time. So I know what colours, plants etc, I want to feature for the season. We shop for the plants together… (and this is the ha-ha part) … HE then plants them. I love the look of a garden but I have the world’s blackest thumb and no interest in digging in the dirt. He loves it. So this is our “compromise”. I get a few herbs & veggies… and he gets pretty flowers (lol, all colour coordinated, and that flower in rotation all season long). And together we both have a GORGEOUS backyard to enjoy.
9- Mr TTR actually likes working outside in the summertime… so he is also the guy who cuts the lawn. And he has a routine of washing the cars regularly (he says it relaxes him). In return for his hard work, I make him a big pitcher of something wonderful to drink / keep him cool (Lemonade, Iced Tea, etc… often from scratch). And if it is the Weekend, then I may be inside planning a nice summer lunch or meal for us to sit outside with later… where he gets to enjoy relaxing and looking around at “his accomplishment”… He doesn’t mind it if it is a meal from the Grill… he is the Grillmaster (as he loves it when I marinade something, or have spent the time soaking a cedar plank for salmon… or have whipped up some incredible salad… knowing that Homemade Macaroni Salad or Potatoe Salad can take time to make).
10- Generally speaking we have an unwritten rule… One Cooks and the Other Cleans Up. Mr TTR does the majority of the day-to-day cooking (he loves to cook). So in return, I am the one who makes sure the kitchen is cleaned up afterwards, and run the dishwasher. He says he LOVES waking up to a spotless kitchen in the morning.
11- In the summertime we like to go for a Weekend Drive… lol, we are both over 50, so this is no doubt a hold-over from our childhood (the Sunday Drive)… as it is something that our Parents certainly did.
12- Breakfast in Bed. We’ve done this ever since we began dating 7+ Years ago. We like to try and spend one Weekend Morning reading the papers in Bed. Mr TTR will get up and make a pot of Coffee and cook up some Breakie, and we’ll sit in bed for a few hours eating, reading the papers, or maybe catching a bit of tv. This is a habit tho we do more religiously in the Wintertime… when it is nice to snuggle under the Down Duvet as long as possible while the snow falls outside our window.
13- Wine & Cheese. At least once every two weeks, we skip having a regular cooked dinner, and just open a bottle of wine and put out a platter with an assortment of crackers, cheeses, crudite, olives, pickles, maybe some french baguette and pate. Sometimes we do it and just use the opportunity to talk… other times we’ll put on a movie.
14- Getaways & Vacations. This would have to be our “signature” item. When we aren’t away on an adventure, we are planning the next one. We ALWAYS have at least one in each category on the Calendar… and are researching / daydreaming about others. Sometimes our Getaways are just an overnight somewhere… othertimes they are long weekend escapes. And vacations can span anywhere from 5 days to 5 weeks (witness our Pre-Wedding – Wedding & Honeymoon Extravaganza)
Both keep our relationship fresh and interesting… as we go out and discover new things… find new places to call OURS. Doesn’t matter how long the escape, they can be great ways to also recharge individually. I truly L♥VE this aspect of our relationship.
Hope this helps,