Married Men Flirting. How to react?

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
8387 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

@joleegirl:  Maybe that’s how he just interacts with people?  Maybe he’s just a skeevy and distgusting as he comes off to be?  Without knowing more about him and his relationship it’s really hard to say.  When people do this with me, I just carry on a normal conversation (i.e. don’t flirt back, but still talk).

Post # 4
1287 posts
Bumble bee

Maybe its just his personality and he comes off as flirting.  Don’t ignore him, he is your husbands boss. You don’t want to come off as a bitch.  If it were me, I’d flirt back just for shits and giggles.

Post # 5
6446 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

@rickhurst35:  +1

I know I’ve been told that I occasionally come off as flirty and I definitely don’t mean too. Just don’t flirt back. You can still talk to him with flirting (even if he is flirting).  I would not ignore my husband’s boss and I would be annoyed to find that my husband is ignoring my boss.

Post # 6
1302 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@rickhurst35:  +1 I wouldn’t ignore him – he is your husband’s boss. Plus, maybe he isn’t even flirting with you.

Post # 7
2782 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@joleegirl:  I wouldn’t read into it- sounds like when you think he’s “flirting” with you- that’s just his personality.  Otherwise he wouldn’t ask your husband what’s up- 

If he considered it flirting and brought to your husband’s attention that you weren’t talking to him, pretty sure he’s be concerned that you’d tell your husband about the “flirting”- see what I mean?


Some people are just more “flirty” than others.  If he’s the same towards you he is with most others, it’s just how he is 🙂

Post # 10
352 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Some people are just a natural flirt and don’t know they’re flirting!

If I knew the man was legit flirting with me, I wouldn’t completely ignore him, but I would just keep a distance and chat with him like any other person in the room.


Post # 11
1287 posts
Bumble bee

Still, he’s your husbands collegue.  You should be nice, either way. 


Hell, I’ve had 2 children and nearing 40…I’m flattered when people flirt with me. 

Post # 12
729 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Tough call. You don’t want to cause a rift in their working relationship, but on the other hand, business partners should not disrespect each other’s families.

If it were me, I would probably say something like, “How’s your wife, Bob? How’s your son? Do you have any recent pictures?” Hint. Hint.

Also, consider mentioning it to your husband if you haven’t already…not to cause a problem, but to bring it to his attention.

Post # 13
2052 posts
Buzzing bee

@chercee:  +1

I like the approach of keeping conversations about HIS wife and HIS son.  Then maybe you can share photos of what YOU and YOUR husband did most recently that was awesome and you two were happy at.  I put this things in all caps because I would really lay it on thick when asking about his family and sharing stories of yours.  This way you can somewhat be ‘social’ back without it seeming like you are flirting, and making it very clear where your priorities are and lead by example that he should redirect his priorities too.

Post # 14
6407 posts
Bee Keeper

I’d be offended and show it.

As for “what the problem is”, I’d happily tell my husband in your case the exact problem. It’s not a secret for me to keep. At all.

Post # 15
4441 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

@joleegirl:  Tell your husband he’s a creep and that’s why you don’t engage him in conversation more often.  I’m sure your husband will understand as I doubt he appreciates his business partner flirting with his wife.  No big deal.

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