Post # 1
I’m not sure how much detail I should go into. I’m just so confused right now about the whole situation..
My husbands business partner is constantly flirting with girls in general. He is married and has a 2 yr old son. When he flirts with me I just ignore him. I’m happily married and honestly think hes kinda gross lol. But when I ignore him he goes to my husband and asks what my problem is because I don’t talk to him.
I’m not sure how to react or how to handle a situation like this. Any advice?
Post # 3
@joleegirl: Maybe that’s how he just interacts with people? Maybe he’s just a skeevy and distgusting as he comes off to be? Without knowing more about him and his relationship it’s really hard to say. When people do this with me, I just carry on a normal conversation (i.e. don’t flirt back, but still talk).
Post # 4
Maybe its just his personality and he comes off as flirting. Don’t ignore him, he is your husbands boss. You don’t want to come off as a bitch. If it were me, I’d flirt back just for shits and giggles.
Post # 5
I know I’ve been told that I occasionally come off as flirty and I definitely don’t mean too. Just don’t flirt back. You can still talk to him with flirting (even if he is flirting). I would not ignore my husband’s boss and I would be annoyed to find that my husband is ignoring my boss.
Post # 6
@rickhurst35: +1 I wouldn’t ignore him – he is your husband’s boss. Plus, maybe he isn’t even flirting with you.
Post # 7
@joleegirl: I wouldn’t read into it- sounds like when you think he’s “flirting” with you- that’s just his personality. Otherwise he wouldn’t ask your husband what’s up-
If he considered it flirting and brought to your husband’s attention that you weren’t talking to him, pretty sure he’s be concerned that you’d tell your husband about the “flirting”- see what I mean?
Some people are just more “flirty” than others. If he’s the same towards you he is with most others, it’s just how he is 🙂
Post # 8
He isn’t my husbands boss. They are business partners. I have known him for about 10 years. He flirts with me more now than when we were both single. He treats me differently when my husband isnt around. He treats my husband like shit but then goes way out of his way for me (i think he wants me to think he is a “nice person” to cover up for being rude, mean and selfish to my husband)
I understand that some people come across as flirtly. I’m not trying to ignore that, and I completely agree with you there. But this seems different to me.
Post # 10
Some people are just a natural flirt and don’t know they’re flirting!
If I knew the man was legit flirting with me, I wouldn’t completely ignore him, but I would just keep a distance and chat with him like any other person in the room.
Post # 11
Still, he’s your husbands collegue. You should be nice, either way.
Hell, I’ve had 2 children and nearing 40…I’m flattered when people flirt with me.
Post # 12
Tough call. You don’t want to cause a rift in their working relationship, but on the other hand, business partners should not disrespect each other’s families.
If it were me, I would probably say something like, “How’s your wife, Bob? How’s your son? Do you have any recent pictures?” Hint. Hint.
Also, consider mentioning it to your husband if you haven’t already…not to cause a problem, but to bring it to his attention.
Post # 13
I like the approach of keeping conversations about HIS wife and HIS son. Then maybe you can share photos of what YOU and YOUR husband did most recently that was awesome and you two were happy at. I put this things in all caps because I would really lay it on thick when asking about his family and sharing stories of yours. This way you can somewhat be ‘social’ back without it seeming like you are flirting, and making it very clear where your priorities are and lead by example that he should redirect his priorities too.
Post # 14
I’d be offended and show it.
As for “what the problem is”, I’d happily tell my husband in your case the exact problem. It’s not a secret for me to keep. At all.
Post # 15
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@joleegirl: Tell your husband he’s a creep and that’s why you don’t engage him in conversation more often. I’m sure your husband will understand as I doubt he appreciates his business partner flirting with his wife. No big deal.
Post # 16
My husband and I talk about it freely. We tell each other everything. He knows that it bothers me a lot, and it also upsets him. But its a tricky situation becasue they are in a business together. I want to be a nice person to him and I know ignoring him is not the answer, but I dont want to come across as flirting back. Thats why I’m asking for advice 🙂 Thanks ya’ll, you’ve got me thinking 🙂