Married Men that Ogle Women…

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

Yikes. That would creep me out. My SO sounds like yours – I’ve never noticed him check out another chick. Obviously I know he probably does sometimes, but he’s respectful about it and I am glad!!

Post # 4
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Worker bee

I find that type of behavior extremely disrespectful to his wife.  If I had a husband who was that disrespectful of our relationship and my feelings – I would have given him a sharp wake-up call with the pointed end of a fork to his crotch right then and there at the table. 

 

That being said – do you think that perhaps it really was HIS wife and kid?  Maybe he went to lunch with his sister and nephew?  Just throwing out ideas….

 

Post # 5
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1091 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

Looking is one thing, but going out of your way to stare at someone’s physical assets is rude even if you’re single! It’s just not polite to stare! That being said, were you wearing something low-cut? I have to admit, even though I am not a lesbian or even bi-curious, if a woman has ample cleavage showing, I sometimes find my eyes drawn in, hahaha. And I wore a low-cut top once, and my two female friends (while out at dinner on a triple date) mentioned to my SO and I that they couldn’t stop staring at my cleavage, haha… whoops. Haven’t worn that top again.

 

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Ugh, to me this is so disrespectful and makes me angry.  I have never seen FI check out another woman while we’ve been together.  That said, we do acknowledge we’ll notice attractive people but just in passing.  Unless Robert Downey Jr is working out next to me on the treadmill, it’s a quick thought of “oh he’s cute” then done.

We have been out when FI has noticed guys looking at me, and he takes it as a compliment.  Boys are so weird… I think I’ve seen women checking FI out, and I get mostly possessive 😛 but then joke with him “did you see that girl checking you out?”

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

That is so disgusting and creepy. I would have smacked my husband (on the arm etc) if I caught him doing that, and I probably would have been a bit offended. I would say something under the right circumstances, otherwise I’d probalby make it quite obvious that I knew what he was doing, without openly saying HEY KNOCK IT OFF in front of his wife and child.

Post # 9
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Worker bee

@Treejewel19:  Wrong on too many levels then…..  Poor woman must have some low self-esteem.

Post # 10
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

I’d ask him who or what he was looking at so I could oggle, too.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@Treejewel19:  I’ve been in a similar situation before and it bothered me too. I just try to ignore it. Some people have a hard time controlling themselves when they get out in public.

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

@Treejewel19:  Do you have a nice set of hooters? If so, guys are gonna stare whether they’re married or single. Take it as a compliment.

Post # 14
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Worker bee

Although it is true that guys will notice, they should be gentlemanly enough not to disrespect their wives and girlfriends by doing it right in FRONT of them….

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@Aquaria:  I agree. I think anyone would stare … I might even! I don’t it makes them a horrible person but yeah I would be uncomfortable if my DH did. He has never checked out a girl in front of me for the 4 years we have been together. He always looks directly at me and seems to not even pay attention to other women. 

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

Married or single, male or female it is NEVER ok to ogle someone else.  Yes, sometimes you can’t help but take a quick look, but after that you need to be able to control yourself.  We are humans, we can control how we behave.  To treat anyone as if they are an object for you to enjoy is just wrong, and it’s even worse that he was disrespecting his wive and setting a terrible example  for his son at the same time.

My FI never blatantly checks out other women because he respects them as people.  The only time I’ve ever known him to stare at someone or comment on it was when a girl was wearing flesh-toned leggings, and he had to do a double-take because he literally thought someone was walking around with no pants on.  

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