Married mothers: who do you love more ,your husband or kids

posted 3 years ago in Family
  • poll: Who do you love more
    My husband : (9 votes)
    30 %
    My kids : (5 votes)
    17 %
    Equally but differently : (16 votes)
    53 %
  • Post # 3
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    Somebody asked this same question yesterday…but it was really just a tirade on how awful women are b/c they (apparently) all love their kids more and would leave their husbands to die in a fire the first chance they got. Ugh. 

    I love my FI AND my daughter, differently of course, b/c I have ROMANTIC love towards my FI…and that’s definitely not how I feel about my child!

    Post # 4
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    1706 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    I love them both equally in a day to day kind of thing, but at the same time if they were both hanging off a cliff and I had to save one of them it would be my daughter.  She’s my daughter, I’m supposed to protect her, and she’s just a child.  He would absolutely want me to save her over him, that’s what parents should want.  That doesn’t mean I would “leave my husband to die in a fire the first chance I got” as pp mentioned others got into on a different thread.  That’s just ridiculous.

    The good thing is, I hope to never have to choose so I’ll never be faced with any of it.

    Post # 5
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    2355 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    This is one of the reasons I am unsure about children. I don’t want anything to come between my SO and I. I realize it’s two different kinds of love, but I have watched more than one mother put the kids leagues ahead of their husband. My mother loves my father, but she will do things for her now-grown children that she would never do for him, and he knows it.

     

    Post # 6
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    164 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    This is part of the reason I’m never having kids. I want my fiance to always be my number one and I always want to be his.

    Post # 7
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    2311 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I would love then both ‘equally’ but i would give more time to my husband. He will be with me during my least favourable years down the road. He is the reason the kids happened. He is the person who will be raising them with me. He deserves that little extra TLC.

    Post # 8
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    1535 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    @Sasha2011:  That’s a good point

    Post # 9
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    2880 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 1998

    I love my husband more:)))  he is the love of my life and the person I’m going to grow old with.

    Of course I love my children but it’s definetly a different kind of love!

    Post # 10
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    3442 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    I don’t have children yet, but I suspect both my FI & I will love our children more than each other. That is not to say that we are not madly in love, but the love will be so different

    Obviously the marriage has to come first, and our relationship kindled in order to show the children what true love should look like, but the love you have for your children just has to trumph all.

    It should be the most unconditional love ever known, just second to the love our Lord has for us, his children.

     

    Post # 11
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    2474 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Not sure if spam or serious question considering the other thread going around right now…

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