Post # 1
When I was very little, I asked my grandmother who she loved the most, thinking that the answer would be me. Without hesitating, she told me that sheloved grandpa the most. I was surprisedand kept asking her if she loved him more than my mother, more than my aunt, more than me. Always the answer was yes. She was incredibly gentle throughout my line of questioning and explained to me that he was the love of her life. I was too young then to understand the difference between romantic love and familial love, but I always remembered this. I also remember my grandparents sitting nextto each other on the couch, holding hands and singing tunes together absentmindedly well into their 80s.
They share something icredible with each other. T his question often comes in my mind as i don’t have kids yet.
I want to know what other mothers think about this topic.
Post # 3
Somebody asked this same question yesterday…but it was really just a tirade on how awful women are b/c they (apparently) all love their kids more and would leave their husbands to die in a fire the first chance they got. Ugh.
I love my FI AND my daughter, differently of course, b/c I have ROMANTIC love towards my FI…and that’s definitely not how I feel about my child!
Post # 4
I love them both equally in a day to day kind of thing, but at the same time if they were both hanging off a cliff and I had to save one of them it would be my daughter. She’s my daughter, I’m supposed to protect her, and she’s just a child. He would absolutely want me to save her over him, that’s what parents should want. That doesn’t mean I would “leave my husband to die in a fire the first chance I got” as pp mentioned others got into on a different thread. That’s just ridiculous.
The good thing is, I hope to never have to choose so I’ll never be faced with any of it.
Post # 5
This is one of the reasons I am unsure about children. I don’t want anything to come between my SO and I. I realize it’s two different kinds of love, but I have watched more than one mother put the kids leagues ahead of their husband. My mother loves my father, but she will do things for her now-grown children that she would never do for him, and he knows it.
Post # 6
This is part of the reason I’m never having kids. I want my fiance to always be my number one and I always want to be his.
Post # 7
I would love then both ‘equally’ but i would give more time to my husband. He will be with me during my least favourable years down the road. He is the reason the kids happened. He is the person who will be raising them with me. He deserves that little extra TLC.
Post # 8
@Sasha2011: That’s a good point
Post # 9
I love my husband more:))) he is the love of my life and the person I’m going to grow old with.
Of course I love my children but it’s definetly a different kind of love!
Post # 10
I don’t have children yet, but I suspect both my FI & I will love our children more than each other. That is not to say that we are not madly in love, but the love will be so different
Obviously the marriage has to come first, and our relationship kindled in order to show the children what true love should look like, but the love you have for your children just has to trumph all.
It should be the most unconditional love ever known, just second to the love our Lord has for us, his children.
Post # 11
Not sure if spam or serious question considering the other thread going around right now…