Post # 1
I am 22 I have 1 child he is almost 3. Meet my FH when my son was a few months old. My FH is 38 no children never married and never ttc or had any scares. I get a little worried sometimes with his age that it is going to be hard for us to concieve. Any other bees marry an older man and concieve with no issues. I have stressed before that we should probably start trying soon after getting married (We wed in Nov 2011). Experiences and Advice would be awesome 🙂 Thanks
Post # 3
@MarryMeTiffany: 38 isn’t old, hun. My Fiance is 42 and we were told he was still in the “prime” age and shouldn’t have ANY problems with his fertility. (Unlike if he were a female…)
It’s not unusual for a guy that age to not have any scares or kids if he were careful.
Give it a year (or whatever your doctor’s office goes with, some say 6 months but most say a year) and THEN worry if you haven’t had any luck.
Unless you’ve had other fertility issues or he has had health problems, it shouldn’t be an issue.
Post # 4
@MarryMeTiffany: My cousin’s husband was 39 when they married. He’d never had children, but they had a baby ten months after their wedding.
I have another cousin (I have a huge extended family) who married when both he and his wife were 37. Neither had been married before nor had any children and they had three children (at 38, 40 and 41).
I don’t think age is quite as big a factor for men as it is for women.
Post # 5
My cousins husband is 55 and had no problems. He never had kids prior. I interviewed a few months ago to work for a guy who was 67 years old, yes 67! He married a 30 something year old and they had twins first try. I don’t think men are like women that their clock ticks like that. You could look into getting testing though if it really scares you and you need to know.
Post # 6
Darling Husband is 47 and I’m 31, we got pregnant first month of trying (after 10+ years of dating and on the Pill).
I suppose it was in my mind that either of us could have trouble but I feel very blessed that things worked out how we had hoped.
Post # 7
@ams12: most places won’t do testing (that I know of) unless there’s an issue. Or you want to pay a heaping ton of money for it, since I doubt insurance would cover a test without a reason.
Men have a COMPLETELY different clock than women. That’s not to say men DO NOT have problems (just ask some of the girls on the infertility thread), but the majority of men out there don’t have any problems at all.
Post # 8
My husband is 38 and I am 28. We got pregnant after 3 months of trying. I wouldn’t worry about his age!
Post # 9
38 isn’t old. When you aren’t 22, you’ll realize that ;-).
He is still in his prime – a guy’s prime lasts much longer than a woman’s!
Post # 10
My mum married my daddy when he was 48, she was 21. They had my brother when he was 56 and myself when he was 60! They didn’t have any problems getting pregnant either, we were both planned. He never had any children beforehand. I think y’all will be just fine 🙂
Post # 11
I don’t think his age will be a problem just yet. No scares at 38 isn’t bad. I didn’t have any scares my entire 20s because I was careful.LOL I used to date a man who was 38 and he had never had any scares either and I quickly learned he was extra careful as to not just have any old kids everywhere around the city. He still doesn’t have any ad he’s 40. 🙂
If after about 6months of trying, my doctor suggested I get a HSG and a SA for my SO. I decided to wait until the 1yr mark, which was good because we did get pregnant. After 1yr they’ll definitely do one.
Post # 12
With men, age doesn’t factor as much, since the only thing their body needs to do is produce sperm. I wouldn’t worry about it
Post # 13
If you’re worried you can always request a semen analysis now. You may have to pay completely out of pocket for it w/o an infertility diagnosis, but they typically range from $50-150 bucks. Granted a good SA doesn’t mean you won’t have any problems concieving, but it might give you more info to decide when you’re ready to start trying. Good luck!
Post # 14
There ARE conception and other health risks associated with older dads. (ETA- doesn’t seem to affect much yet at age 38, though.) Google can provide you with a bunch of different articles. Ultimately there are risks associated with everything in life and with any age at which you choose to have children. I personally know someone who had one child at 39 and one at 42. The one he had at 42 had a (not so noticeable) birth defect that nobody else in their family has, but I really don’t know if it has to do with his age at his child’s birth.
Post # 15
My husband is 42, drinks beer and coffee, and probably wears the wrong kind of underwear…and we conceived on our third try. Try not to stress about things out of your control. You love your guy and you’re going to marry him no matter what, right? Everything will be just fine!
Post # 16
If Rupert Murdoch (owner of Fox News) can father his 5th child at 70 and his 6th at 72, I fail to see why you are worried…I thought age-fertility issues were strictly female-related!