Post # 1
Ok so normally I wouldn’t think about this. I know its a little rude to get married on a weekday simply b/c its not throughtful to your guests (having rush after work to be at a wedding also having to take it easy cause of work the following day)
that being said my SO has not really wanted to do any wedding planning he pretty much told me do anything i want cause its my thing to plan and he be happy with whatever. He has kinda tried to put it off never setting a date then randomly rushing it going form no date to lets do it this summer(a little impossible unless u started planning ages ago lol) to ok i get it you need 6 months to get a dress putting the wedding in january. I had not told him yet (i kinda guesses he know since all my wedding planns were outside that winter is not a good time)
So here is the thing he asked today if we could do it on his birthday? i thought that was so sweet sweet enough i totally get over not doing any of my dream wedding elements as they are all outdoor themed and january in canada is not beach bear foot friendly lol
thing is his birthday is on a Tuesday? is that alright i mean it is up to us peopple can get over a weekday 6 months to ask for 2 days off mid week shouldnt be a problem? cause i dont really want to tell him no he goes can i have one thing for the wedding can we do it on my birthday I dont wanna tell him no
if a week day wedding really is bad how would you suggest trying to sway him to doing i the weekend before or after?
Post # 2
Unless I was very very close to you, I wouldn’t take off two days for a mid week wedding. Even with that much notice its not practical for a lot of people. For instance, I’m a teacher, and I only get 3 personal days per year. I wouldn’t want to have to spend two of those going to a wedding. Are many of your guests going to be coming from out of town? You could always have a late afternoon wedding with a small reception, but realize people wont stay very late afterwards. Can you convince him to do the weekend before his birthday and go on your honeymoon during the week of his birthday?
Post # 3
It depends on how many people you want there, really. If you do it on a weekday, odds are it will be just your nearest and dearest. People who are less close to you may not want to take 2 days off work so if you’re alright with it just being your closest friends and family, I say go for it.
Post # 4
I would not take two days off unless I was really close to you- like close enough to be in the wedding party. That being said, I don’t think it’s rude to have it on a Tuesday. You will just need to adjust your expectations about how many people will be able to come and not get upset if people can’t/won’t take off.
Post # 5
Offbeatwifey2be: I would just expect a much lower than usual acceptance rate. My cousin is getting married on a Wednesday and I know a ton of people aren’t able to make it. I probably won’t be able to, either, because I live in a different state.
Post # 6
I would run it by potential guests and see what their reaction is. If you have it in the evening, people in town might not have to take off any time at all. OOT guests would be another story of course. But I’d attend a weekday wedding, sure.
Post # 7
- Wedding: August 2015 - Backyard Forest
the only way I would go to a wedding on a weekday like that is if it was local. Are you planning a small wedding?
I kind of think it’s weird that your FI wants to get married on his birthday? Shouldn’t your anniversary be a sacred thing for you both?
Why can’t you pick a month that makes sense for both of you and what you both want. I get that not all men are into the wedding… but I think choosing a day outside of his birthday on a Tuesday would be more appropriate.
Post # 8
I wouldn’t take time off mid-week for someones wedding, I would attend but I wouldn’t waste vacation time.
I get that a couple can do what they want, but it shouldn’t come at the discomfort of your guests. Having a wedding on a Tuesday, in my opinion, does not sound all that fun.
Post # 9
Thanks for all the feed back i am finding it helpful, I def could see it bringing down the numbers, it is something to think about.
After reading many peoples thoughts on it i do find it helpful, I wouldn’t ever want to get married on my birthday lol (i even would perfer to avoid that month) I don’t really get why he wants it on his birthday, i think its about starting life new with me i find it sweet he is wanting to make it special to him though and was happy he finally voiced something he wanted
I am thinking the middle of the week would be hard for people (i have cousin who work for schools and didn’t realize people only get 3 personal days) most of the people who would have to travel dont work that being said I do think weekend would be better just easier for people I mean lots of my friends do work weekends and lots of the people i love are no longer working so they would have a fair time doing mid week but their are people who i could see just not coming who i would really want to be there
I may ask people who i want if they come on a weekday feel out reactions to that i think that was a really good idea
I may try mentioning the honey moon on his birthday that could work a little better also i had really wanted toget married on a full moon and since all my other ideas will mostly be nixed cause of the whole he wants to get married in 6 months not next summer (or he would this summer but thats kinda impossible at this point lol) i would like to stick with some of the elements i liked alreayd wont have any of the bare feet on the beahc flowy dress outdoors stuff i had really wanted
Post # 10
It would really depend on what kind of wedding you’re planning on having. If you want something really small and intimate, like just immediate family and a few friends, I think that could work. Also if it’s in an area that’s convenient to everyone.
Post # 11
How many of your guests will have to travel? How far are you from an airport? How long will it take for them to travel? How many of them would travel for a weekend wedding?
If I lived within driving distance, I wouldn’t have a problem with it unless there was a serious work obligation that day, but that also applies to Friday weddings. If I had to fly, I would only go if you were close to me … but that is also true for a weekend wedding. If you had the wedding Tuesday afternoon with an EARLY evening reception, I could theoretically fly there Tuesday morning and get back on the last flight Tuesday evening. In fact, that would actually be better than some Saturday early morning weddings that require a Friday flight. It will be cheaper for you, and possibly cheaper for out of town guests since Tuesday is not as popular a flight date. I would not stay late at the reception.
I have a pretty flexible work schedule.
If your guests do not, you will get some flak, and your fiance’s whimsical decision to have it on his birthday will not be taken well by people who might miss your wedding because of it.
Post # 12
You’re welcome to have your wedding on any day, but it just means that you’ll likely have a very small celebration. I personally wouldn’t go unless my brothers were getting married.
Post # 13
Offbeatwifey2be: I would only expect those closest to attend.
My wedding is also on a Tuesday, and out of town. We’ll all be out of town for 6 days! I didn’t want a big wedding, but if I did, this would not be a good idea.
I have a very understanding professor, so he will let me take a week off school. My fiance is using up his vacation days. My mom is a SAHM. My dad and brother work for themselves, so they don’t have to worry about asking permission for days off. I got lucky with my situation.
Post # 14
I got married on my birthday on a weekday and now LOVE having my birthday tied to my anniversary. We eloped so I wasn’t worried about anyone attending but my previous marriage I got married on a Tuesday destination wedding and didn’t invite a ton of people but quite a few made the effort to be there including all family.
Post # 15
Your posts are really hard to read with no punctuation but no I would not go to a wedding on a Tuesday unless your were a very close friend or family member. My vacation days are precious and I only get so many a year.