Married on a weekday?

posted 2 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
1793 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

Unless I was very very close to you, I wouldn’t take off two days for a mid week wedding. Even with that much notice its not practical for a lot of people. For instance, I’m a teacher, and I only get 3 personal days per  year. I wouldn’t want to have to spend two of those going to a wedding. Are many of your guests going to be coming from out of town? You could always have a late afternoon wedding with a small reception, but realize people wont stay very late afterwards. Can you convince him to do the weekend before his birthday and go on your honeymoon during the week of his birthday? 

Post # 3
667 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June, 2014

It depends on how many people you want there, really. If you do it on a weekday, odds are it will be just your nearest and dearest. People who are less close to you may not want to take 2 days off work so if you’re alright with it just being your closest friends and family, I say go for it. 

Post # 4
6457 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

I would not take two days off unless I was really close to you- like close enough to be in the wedding party. That being said, I don’t think it’s rude to have it on a Tuesday. You will just need to adjust your expectations about how many people will be able to come and not get upset if people can’t/won’t take off.

Post # 5
2264 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

Offbeatwifey2be:  I would just expect a much lower than usual acceptance rate. My cousin is getting married on a Wednesday and I know a ton of people aren’t able to make it. I probably won’t be able to, either, because I live in a different state.

Post # 6
1244 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I would run it by potential guests and see what their reaction is. If you have it in the evening, people in town might not have to take off any time at all. OOT guests would be another story of course. But I’d attend a weekday wedding, sure.

Post # 7
802 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2015 - Backyard Forest

the only way I would go to a wedding on a weekday like that is if it was local. Are you planning a small wedding?

I kind of think it’s weird that your FI wants to get married on his birthday? Shouldn’t your anniversary be a sacred thing for you both? 

Why can’t you pick a month that makes sense for both of you and what you both want. I get that not all men are into the wedding… but I think choosing a day outside of his birthday on a Tuesday would be more appropriate.


Post # 8
4638 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I wouldn’t take time off mid-week for someones wedding, I would attend but I wouldn’t waste vacation time.

I get that a couple can do what they want, but it shouldn’t come at the discomfort of your guests. Having a wedding on a Tuesday, in my opinion, does not sound all that fun.

Post # 10
2428 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

It would really depend on what kind of wedding you’re planning on having. If you want something really small and intimate, like just immediate family and a few friends, I think that could work. Also if it’s in an area that’s convenient to everyone.

Post # 11
373 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

How many of your guests will have to travel? How far are you from an airport? How long will it take for them to travel? How many of them would travel for a weekend wedding?

If I lived within driving distance, I wouldn’t have a problem with it unless there was a serious work obligation that day, but that also applies to Friday weddings. If I had to fly, I would only go if you were close to me … but that is also true for a weekend wedding. If you had the wedding Tuesday afternoon with an EARLY evening reception, I could theoretically fly there Tuesday morning and get back on the last flight Tuesday evening. In fact, that would actually be better than some Saturday early morning weddings that require a Friday flight. It will be cheaper for you, and possibly cheaper for out of town guests since Tuesday is not as popular a flight date. I would not stay late at the reception.

I have a pretty flexible work schedule.

If your guests do not, you will get some flak, and your fiance’s whimsical decision to have it on his birthday will not be taken well by people who might miss your wedding because of it.


Post # 12
1902 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

You’re welcome to have your wedding on any day, but it just means that you’ll likely have a very small celebration.  I personally wouldn’t go unless my brothers were getting married.

Post # 13
122 posts
Blushing bee

Offbeatwifey2be:  I would only expect those closest to attend. 

My wedding is also on a Tuesday, and out of town. We’ll all be out of town for 6 days! I didn’t want a big wedding, but if I did, this would not be a good idea.

I have a very understanding professor, so he will let me take a week off school. My fiance is using up his vacation days. My mom is a SAHM. My dad and brother work for themselves, so they don’t have to worry about asking permission for days off. I got lucky with my situation.



Post # 14
431 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I got married on my birthday on a weekday and now LOVE having my birthday tied to my anniversary.  We eloped so I wasn’t worried about anyone attending but my previous marriage I got married on a Tuesday destination wedding and didn’t invite a ton of people but quite a few made the effort to be there including all family.

Post # 15
1473 posts
Bumble bee

Your posts are really hard to read with no punctuation but no I would not go to a wedding on a Tuesday unless your were a very close friend or family member. My vacation days are precious and I only get so many a year. 

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