- 5 years ago
Back in December 27th 1987 I was married in a Civil Ceremony in Illinois. THEN on December 23rd 1988 was Married both Civil and in Church in Mexico.
Here is the question, I got a no-contest divorced in Texas in 1999. But for the next 2 years we were working towards reconciling, in fact we had decided to. Then I learned this woman he had been messing around with duped him into believing she was pregnant ( older than dinosaurs ) which was a lie… But smart guy he is fell for it, well to save face he couldn’t admit he was fooled lol… I did not know her, never met her, we were about 1200 miles away and she hated me and the kids for whatever twisted reasons..She really hurt the kids with some whacko lies she invented and him being the clueless one he is,,,well it left a real mark on them…..Yeah.Oh yeah she’s a doozy…even now, if I have to call him ( my youngest son has health issues ), if she answers she tells me that he and I are not “allowed” to speak… hey…go figure that one out… total nut job…So now I am really concerned I am still married to this guy.. I keep hearing different answers ( even from legal sources ). I am not currently involved with anyone, but he married this nut in 2006 in Illinois.
We have children, and I told him to find out if we are still legally married BEFORE he was going to, of course he didn’t look into it… ( I am a citizen, he was and still is a resident Alien, we did not marry for that reason ).
OUR reasons for marrying in Mexico were for family being present…..The date we married in Mexico ( 12-23-88 ) both civil and church wedding…. So there are 2 different marriage dates ONE in the US, the 2ND almost a year later in Mexico. I have been trying to discover the truth for the past several years because someone told me there was a chance I was still legally married..If I am, man,,,it’s got to be taken care of…it’s nuts.
Also,….He had a previous civil marriage (they were really young ), prior to me here in Texas but divorced in Illinois in 1987 (july) Yeah I know right.. But she and I get along, we’re not best buddies but we are on good terms for years. …She is from Mexico as well but came here *US* as a baby and got her citizenship. They never married in Mexico, only he and I did…..While it holds no significance I know of ia that one of the reasons he married in 2006 was due to pressure from the woman he screwed around with and left his family (us) for was her illegal status in the US,,
I NEED to know for myself, and cannot seem to get a straight answer from lawyers.
Am I still legally married ? And what are my recourses if I am still married ? HELP Please