Married while still in college?

posted 3 years ago in Weddingbee
Post # 3
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3280 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@cmoest:  I will be married right after undergrad and while starting grad school. We already bought a house and live together so it feels like we’re married now and we’re both full time students. I would never change being engaged/married in school. The majority of people around us are married at 19-21 and are in college. It hasn’t been hard at all and has been really fun so far!

Post # 4
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1626 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@cmoest:  I am in my last year of college, and it may also be because I’m 25 (I did a lot of traveling after HS – got started late), but I don’t really think it makes things harder per se. FI is graduated and has a good job. We’re getting married in 3 months. My classes have been harder on our relationship just bc it’s hard to make time when you’re bogged down with homework (I also work <_<)…

But I feel like if you still make time for each other and support each other through your classes and work it should be fine. It certainly makes money a bigger issue…but I don’t know that I would NOT marry him. He helps me study for tests, proof reads my papers, doodles on my flash cards, lol. He’s also really good at keeping himself occupied, so that helps too.

One thing, though, to keep in mind, is that if you get married and have incomes, you may lose financial aid if you’re receiving it. I’m lucky that this is my last year bc after FI and I get married, he makes too much money and there would go my aid. So think that over also if that’s a thing for you.

Post # 5
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1343 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I wouldn’t call it marriage… but me and my FH moved in together at the very beginning of Junior year of my undergrad…. it was genuinely one of the hardest things I’ve ever done. We had to get an apartment by ourselves because student living in my area didn’t really allow non-married couples or even married couples from what I know. So we went off campus. I do not regret it, I’m so glad that we got through our money problems, all the stress etc. However, you typically don’t make a lot of money while you’re in school… So I had to work two jobs, a tutoring job, and a waitressing job until I got a part time one at a bigger corporation and he had to work as well… It’s hard. Everything is double. You become an adult overnight and it’s difficult to adjust. It took us a while to learn how to budget TOGETHER. Getting a joint checking account and having one separate really helped us a lot. As far as college… it was definitely harder! Personally, I wanted to be all the things that I thought in my young little head what a wife should be… so balancing work, school, being a pre-wife, etc… it was hard! Like I said, I don’t regret it, I love my FH more than anything else in this entire world. But sometimes I do wonder how much easier the last two years would have been if I could have remained a kid for just a little longer… It’s a big decision, don’t make it lightly! You can always PM me with questions! 

Post # 6
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1343 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@icanhearyousmile:  That was the biggest reason for us not getting married until after we graduated, because of financial aid! +1 to the helping studying and proof reading! That was one of the best parts! lol

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