Marrieds: what were your lessons learned at the wedding?

posted 2 years ago in Recaps
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Honey bee

Try not to be nervous walking down the aisle. You aren’t performing anything. You are experiencing a right of passage in front of your most treasured family and friends. Be “in the moment” when you are walking down the aisle. Take a moment to look at everyone in their seats, and burn it into your memory. So many women talk about walking down the aisle being a big “blur.” Don’t let this be you. 

Breathe. 

Do not drink too much. (I did not do this, but I’m sure it sucks for those that do) You want to remember your special day. 

USE THE BATHROOM BEFORE YOU PUT YOUR DRESS ON! Repeat before walking down the aisle. My biggest fear was having the urge to go in the middle of the ceremony. 

Have someone follow you around with a glass of ice water at all times if you are getting married in the summer. You. WILL. be. HOT! Have them carry around some tissues to dabble your face with too. 

Remember your posture for photos. 

Smile. Love. Enjoy. 

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Honey bee

Great advice!

I would add visit your flowers at the florist the day before.

Also practice just standing in your shoes. Seriously they hurt more when you are just standing in one spot for 20-30 mins.

Put someone else incharge once the ceremony starts and let everything go. Soak up all the good and let go of the bad.

Within a few days/weeks, write down your fav memories. I went through each phase of the preceremony like rehearsal or getting ready through the rest of th day and wrote down all my thoughts. I love looking back at it.

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Bumble Beekeeper

I wish someone would have reminded me about the “somethings.”  I didn’t have my something borrowed or my something old.

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Bumble bee

Definitely get all the bathroom visits out the way before putting on a big ball gown and crindolin. I had to deal with pulling my bride’s panties up and down on the toilet when I was a BM. 

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Honey bee

Something will inevitably go wrong however keep in mind your guests will never know most things if you don’t tell them. Plan ahead and if you don’t have a day of coordinator put someone else in charge of monitoring the timeline and ensuring everything runs smoothly. You want to enjoy your day not monitor events. If specific photographs are important to you have a list and make sure that you have a person possibly a bridal party member ensures your moments are captured. If you are wearing a corset lace up dress  it will fit snugly, it will not be comfortable especially when sitting, some brides get bruising from the boning, eat before you put your dress on as you may not eat all day feeling like there is no room for it. Be prepared to stand all day. 

The whole day flys by so fast especially the ceremony find time to enjoy the moment. Start earlier than you think you need to as once the nerves kick in it may take longer to get to the site than planned. Have discussions with your vendors in advance outlining your expectations of outcomes, this way you don’t have to provide direction on the day. 

 

Even if you are on a tight budget never hire someone just because they are the cheapest. Avoid being too friendly with your vendors, ensure you have a professional relationship then create a friendship after your wedding if there is still a good connection. That way you can get the professional results and not worry about hurting their feelings if your vision is not achieved. 

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Worker bee

Best advice I had was to make sure you and your new husband take a moment.

My husband and I snuck away to another room and had a cup of tea while we watched everyone from afar. It was lovely to have a bit of us time and some peace and quiet for 10 minutes, it really allowed us to take it all in as the day goes so fast.

Make sure someone has a bottle of water to hand, our wedding day was warm and while standing outside posing for photographs after the ceremony (especially after the champagne I had while I was getting ready!) I was so dehydrated and my mouth so dry that all the smiling was uncomfortable.

Photographs take much longer than you imagine.

 

 

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Busy bee

Don’t hold your flowers so high! Someone told me this and then I forgot, tell your Maid of Honor or one of the bridesmaids to remind you of this! All my down the aisle shots I’m holding my bouquet at boob height instead of belly button height.

Practice walking in your shoes the weeks before the wedding, this was a life savor for me. I would just walk around doing household chores in them to get used to wearing them and I think it saved me! I was able to be in my shoes non-stop from 12:30 pm til 10 pm!

Ask the reception venue to have a server ask you if you need anything, like water, throughout the night. I was SOOOOOOOO thirsty!!! I had to keep getting my own water and usually only when I was absolutely dying.

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Sugar bee

Re. the flowers – yes, hold them low, and ideally LOWER than belly-button level. Posted a thread about this here, with helpful example pictures.

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Helper bee

Thank you ladies so much! I really appreciate the advice. I especially loved the cup of tea escape, I’m going to try to incorporate that!

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