- 2 years ago
- Wedding: July 2016
We have been looking for a venue for a month now, and it is proving frustrating. My fiance’s family has the option to use their beautiful, historic Presbyterian church for free but there are a few problems. We are pretty constrained with the vows, with the type of music we can use, and how much the photographer is allowed to move around. We have to undergo pre-marriage counseling (where there is some possibility we’ll have to promise to raise our kids as Prebyterians) and we have to use the congregation’s minister as officiant, whereas I have a specific officiant in mind that I want to use. I am not Presbyterian and don’t plan to be.
I was raised in the church of Christ, and it is vaguely important to me to marry in one. I also want a historic church building for the ceremony, so that narrows things down even further. There is one building in our county that fits these needs, and it is very pretty, but my cousin was married there last year. There are still two years to go before our wedding, so it would not be very close together, and there will only be maybe 8-10 guests who attend both weddings. I would decorate it in a much different style from her.
Does anyone know if this is bad form to “copy” her venue? My reception would be in a different place than her’s. I want to be clear that this is NOT our family church building, it would just be a place we both apparently happen to like. Do you think people will think I am being tacky or rude by using the same place?