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Just curious. None of my brothers have settled with a Vietnamese girl. Filipino, a Southern Belle, Chinese...

I'm 2nd generation Vietnamese-American and my FI is 2nd generation Thai-American. How about you?

@mireisen: I am 1st generation Malaysian American - well half 1st generation Malaysian American and half West Virginian - my mom broke the intercultural mold for me.  I'm marrying an Englishman.

Has it affected your wedding planning?

I have been getting many many calls from my uncle in Malaysia mad at me about two things - not marrying Melayu and not marrying muslim.  It's funny, sad, annoying and heartbreaking all at once.

@MISSCULTURAL: You really should not use the term "mulatto" - it's considered a very very derogatory term for half African American - half White children.

@MISSCULTURAL: I didn't think you were using it that way and these things happen ... it's better to be informed instead of saying around someone who would be really offended. 

The whole history of the word has roots in slavery and civil rights issues.  At one time in history mixed race relationships and marriages were against the law - even as recent as the 1960's. 

@Jenbee: That wedding sounds like it will be a blast!!!

@SimplyChic11: I definitely understand your point of view.

My FI's is English and his family are quite typical -- the are reserved, tea drinking, proper English people - so it will be a riot to see my mom's boisterous Malay family and friends let loose around them.  Unfortunately most of my dad's hick West Virginia family won't be able to make it b/c that would have really been something fun to observe - like a bad science experiment where no one would be able to understand each other!

haha

Thais and Viets are pretty close in mannerisms and thought. But I came from a pretty strong Catholic family, although this isn't the first Catholic-Buddhist pairing (Vietnamese are predominantly Buddhist or Catholic).

Wedding planning, whew. Both of us opted out the traditional ways. I did entertain the thought of wearing a Vietnamese gown for the morning tea ceremony and then switch to a white gown for church and lastly a Thai dress for the water ritual. But no, that'd be way too much of a hassle for my tastes. We're not flashy people.

My dad did ask why we're going to his home country instead of ours for the wedding, but my lovely mother interjected that we have very few relatives left there.

We're both Indian, but from different religions. He can't marry me according to MY religious beliefs (you kinda have to be born into the religion), and I don't WANT to marry as per his.

Plus both our parents already had the super traditional religious marriages with everything and the kitchen sink, and they STILL divorced after that.

So yeah.

Our options are to pick a third kind of ceremony and go with that, or to have a court registered marriage and just throw a large party for the reception. Either way our families are going to be PO, no doubt about that.

@Cybele: I feel your pain - the religion debate is happening now with our extended family - at least our parents are out of it.