Marrying your best friend…

posted 1 year ago in Relationships
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Busy Beekeeper

Yes he is my best friend, I don’t have a best girl friend at the moment. FI and I were best friends for nearly a year before we got together, and I do tell him everything. Even body issues, period cramps, stuff he does to annoy me, etc. He truly is my best friend :)

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Bee Keeper

Mr. 99 is my best friend, sure I have girlfriends, guy friends…stuff like that, my sister is in a class of her own but honestly, if you can have the stomach flu, be a totally disgusting crying mess and have a person that carries you out of the bathroom that actually looks like a demilitarzied zone, have them tuck you into bed, get you gatorade, make you chicken soup AND clean up the carnage you unleashed in the bathroom and still look you in the eye and say they love you, what would you call that?

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Bumble bee

@coolbride125:  I consider my fiance to be one of my best friends.  I have several people that I’m very close to and feel comfortable talking to about anything (including a couple of guys, one of whom will be my man of honor) … But my fiance is included in that group.

I do talk to my fiance about period cramps, body issues, etc.  I know he doesn’t always want to hear about it (haha), but I feel comfortable mentioning those types of things to him.  Our conversations might be different than some of the conversations I’d have with, say, some of my close girlfriends … But I think the reason I feel so close to several different people is because I think we all relate to one another in different ways.  It kind of forms a balance of sorts in my life, which is nice.

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Worker bee

I don’t have any friends that are close enough for me to talk about stuff with, so I do consider my FI to be my best friend. He is and always will be. I feel like I can talk about absolutely anything with him. He understands me more than anyone else does.

@angelinthesnowxo: I do the same thing. I am not afraid to complain to him about cramps or body issues or anything. In fact, he will massage my back or tell me I’m beautiful when I do, so I like that better!

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Busy bee

He is my best friend, has been for 6 years! There is nothing I can’t say/talk to him about. I feel so fortunate when I think about it!

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Busy bee

I’ve actually thought a bunch about this before especially as we were planning our wedding and thinking about vows and such.  I LOVE my husband but I do not consider him my best friend.  I can talk to him about anything (poop, periods and the likes) and I’m not one of those people that likes to hold things in – I feel like I can talk to him about anything.  But I also am close to my mother and can talk to her about anything including my sex life, poop, periods, etc, etc. and I don’t consider her my best friend either.  I guess for me they both fall into different categories than best friend.  My husband has a best friend that does boy-ie type stuff with him and bonds with him in ways that I’m sure I never could and I have a best friend that I do my girlie stuf with and bond with in ways that he never could.  I’m not sure how else to explain it but yeah, in short, while I love my husband with everything I am, I don’t equate him to being my best friend. 

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Bumble bee

He’s absolutely my best friend. There is no one else I can open my heart to fully, besides him. I can tell him anything.

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Buzzing Beekeeper

Yes, I can talk to him about anything and everything.

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Buzzing bee

Yup, he’s my best friend. We literally tell each other everything. I have a few good girl friends, but none as close as me and my SO are. 

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Honey bee

He’s definitely my best friend. Some people have relationships where they maintain artifice but we’re absolutely open and honest with one another. I do love spending time with other friends but there’s no one else who I have more fun with.

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Buzzing bee

DH is absolutely my best friend.   He is the one person that I know I can depend on, that I can tell everything to, and that will completely support me 100%.  I never really knew what having a best friend meant until I was with him. 

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Newbee

Absolutely my best friend.  He puts up with me no matter what kind of mood I am in. That isn’t to say that I tell him everything.  Because sometimes I know he will just do what I want whereas my other friends will put me in my place.

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Newbee

I’ve lived with my FI for 4 years now, he proposed a month ago… I can’t imagine how I could have lived with him for that long without talking about period pains and the rest of it. He has definitely seen me at my worst with all kinds of nasty bugs, I fainted once in the middle of being sick..from both ends.. he dealt with it very well, looked after me, cleaned me up, he didn’t have much choice really!

He’s helped me dye my hair when we were at a hotel the night before I met all his friends at a wedding after I came back from hairdressers looking like I had a lion mane.. my natural colour is dark brown..I ask him to help me make decisions about which outfit to wear etc…

Ok, so he might not completely enjoy all of that, but he does it anyway, because who else would? He’s the one that’s there every day. Sure I have a best girl friend, but she’s married with kids already and I don’t get to see her as often anymore.

We find the same things funny and have tonnes in common and to talk about, laugh all the time. Of course we argue about alot of things too, but only because we know we can have a vent and tell each other if we’re annoying each other, because we know neither of us are going anywhere because we wouldn’t want to live without each other, even when I’m hormonal and a little crazy :-)

After so long living together, the only thing that I worry about occasionally is that we can seem more like best friends than lovers, and it’s hard to keep the romance going sometimes, when every day life is stressful, you come home from work and you just want to eat your dinner and go to bed.. Anyone else feel like that?

I know he’s older than myself and in his early 40′s now, so things must slow down in that department somewhat… right???

A bit off topic now sorry :-) But anyway, yes I do consider my FI my best friend Laughing

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Helper bee

I definitely consider my SO my best friend. I tell him everything. I do have girlfriends, but its a different relationship. At the end of the day when it’s all said and done we have a friendship that cannot be broken. 

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