Post # 1
After seeing Miss Hummingbird’s post about ex-boyfriends and how past relationships shape your current view of dating, I wanted to know how many people out there are marrying the only person that they have ever dated? I have dated my FI for 10 years and he was my only boyfriend. Our relationship was serious from the beginning and we knew that we could spend the rest of our lives together. FI had a few GF’s before but none that were really serious. At the beginning, I was a bit jealous and wished I had dated other people too, but all those feelings are gone now. When you already have what you want, why look for something else? You don’t have to go through a break up yourself to learn from a relationship. I learn from other people’s mistakes everyday. For those of you who are marrying the only person you have ever dated, have other people told you that you should date around or have you had those thoughts yourself?
Post # 3
I’m marrying my first love and could not be happier! FI and I both dated a few people before we met, and his relationships were more seriosu than mine, but I have never ever wanted anyone else since we got together! We’ve been together six years (our dating anniversary was yesterday!) and though at times, early in our relationship, we both had thoughts about not having "lived it up" or missing our "wild" years, for us, being together is the only option!
Plus, it doesn’t hurt that most of my friends are still single. I love them and support them through their dating woes, but its a good feeling to know I’ll never be there myself again!
Post # 4
I’m marrying the first guy I seriously dated. Nobody has questioned me, but that may be because I was 26 when we started dating and 28 when we got engaged.
I, myself, did worry a little bit that I was missing out, but I’ve gotten over it. I’m really happy and wouldn’t want to live without my FI. I’m glad that I don’t have a lot of emotional baggage to overcome.
If you were really young when you started dating your FI, I could see people being skeptical. But if you’ve grown and matured over 10 YEARS and your relationship is still healthy and happy, then I think that speaks for itself.
My cousin started dating her her husband when she was a freshman in high school. They did seperate for a while when they were in college, but didn’t really date other people. A couple years after they graduated he proposed. They were married in 2003 and just had their 2nd child. As far as I know they are very happy. It can happen!
If you’re honest with yourself, I say put your fears to rest and ignore people telling you to ‘date around’.
Post # 5
I am marrying my first love. We started dating when I was 16. I have had a lot of people tell me that I should go out experience life, but for who them??? I want to experience life with my fiance. If you know you know it doesnt matter what age you met. Wouldn’t it be silly to break up, just to satisfy other people’s opinions?
My cousin( whom I am really close to) married the guy she started dating when she was 13. They were together for 14 years when they got married. BUt unfortunately divorced after only 1 year of marriage. He hubby said he started to love her like a sister ( tear).
Anyways what I am getting at is make sure you are still on the same page, you still get the butterflies in the stomach, and can’t wait to see them everyday. I can’t imagine being without my FI. BEst of luck to you and just ignore those ignorant people, because they are probably jealous of what you have!
Post # 6
Me too, I’m marrying my first love, we met at 15 and started dating at 17. I totally believe in if you’re meant to be your meant to be… I used to question myself in my teens and early twenties "am I being too serious at a young age… or if I’m missing out on the dating scene…" but after the college years and having a daily routine of work life… I stopped thinking of the "what if’s.." b/c I already found that I was looking for all along he was right in front of me! We have 3 weeks til our wedding and I can’t wait… all we do is talk every night how… we’re getting married and we both just feel that glow & in wedding bliss! Feel proud you’re marrying your first and only love, it should be an honor! =) I feel very blessed to found my soulmate early in life.
Post # 7
I’m joining the first love club 🙂 My fiance had had one serious girlfriend before me (they dated all four years of high school), and I had only kinda-sorta dated a girl in high school (looooooooong story there). No one ever told me they thought I should date around, though I know my fiance’s parents were worried about him being with one person exclusively. At least his dad was. His dad had been a bit of a player in his youth and I think he wanted his son to have a variety of experiences.
There have been times where I’ve wondered if maybe I was settling down too quickly, but really I can’t imagine being as happy as I am now with anyone else!
Post # 8
Aww, these stories are so sweet! I wish my fiance was the first guy I ever dated.. haha, because that would mean I wouldn’t have dated my screwed up exes! One of my best friends started dating her husband when we were freshman in HS, so we were 14, they dated throughout college, broke up for about a year, and she dated a moron, but they got back together, got engaged and got married on their 10 year dating anniversary (just so happened to fall on a Saturday!), that was over 2 years ago, and they’re perfect for each other!
While I do wish I didn’t have to experience the terrible experiences with the other morons I dated, I am also very glad my fiance and I met when we did, we would have hated each other in high school and probably even college. We talk about it quite a bit and we realize that the stars really aligned when we did finally meet!
Post # 9
I’m also marrying my first love. We met when were 16 and started seriously dating when we were 18. I had some worries at certain times about not dating other people before him since it the first serious relationship for both of us. but I’d never change a thing, we’ve done a lot of growing up together. I knew we were meant for each other right from the start… I have a entry in my diary from when I first met him that says "I’m going to marry him". And now 10 years later that is what I’m going to do 🙂
Post # 10
FI and I met the second week of college and have been together since then (10 years). I agree, when you know you know. We knew we would get married eventually but wanted to finish professional school first. I think if you’ve found the one, embrace it. You can’t worry about the "what if?"
Post # 11
I’m marrying my first love, he is my only serious relationship and he dated 1 other girl in high school for about 3 years but it never turned into anything serious. We it started dating when I was 18 and he was 19 – so I had just graduated high school and he was in the Navy. We’ve been together now for almost 6 years, and I think at first some people were skeptical because things started to get serious quickly and we did long distance while he was stationed in California for 2 years.
The most memorable thing someone has said to me regarding us dating was right before I almost turned 21. A gal I worked with at the time questioned my relationship with him and said I should date around, especially b/c I was about to be 21 and could go to bars and get hit on everywhere and asking what my fiance brought to the table. Wow, I was appalled. Let’s just say that after that day she never said one more word to me about my relationship.
Some of the things I’ve heard were a little hard, but they didn’t matter to me because in my heart I knew how much we loved each other. I look back on everything we’ve been through together so far and can’t imagine spending my life with anyone else. Like others have said, I feel so lucky that we’ve found each other so early in life.
Post # 12
My mom has openly said that she wishes I "looked around" a bit more before committing to FI (met my freshman year of college, right after I broke up with my HS bf, now we have been together 5 years). But I know that he is the one for me. I will be the first to admit that I was a big ol flirt while I studied abroad. I didn’t go as far as to kiss a boy or anything, but I got to know enough other guys out there to realize that FI is totally the one for me. My mom doesn’t understand how I could just look at the other mechandise and know that mine is better without trying everything on for size…but she did grow up in the 70s when things were a lot different…
Post # 13
all very sweet stories…..
while i have dated others seriously before my FI, i am my fiance’s 2nd relationship. period. he was a late bloomer so i was the one who had major anxiety about it when we began to date and i realized how amazing he was. i totally feared that we would break up simply bc he had not "sampled" enough women. in fact, we even had an iffy period a couple years ago when he questioned it himself.
thankfuly, we overcame and in the end, we know we were brought together for a divine purpose. now we are both at peace with that. we are sooo excited to be getting married after dating for 5 years! some of my favorite moments are when he flashes forward 50 years…..when we’re old, elderly and he claims he’s still be "chasing after me". lol…
Post # 14
I’ve been in love twice before and so has he, but looking back now I know neither of those were right the same way my FI and I are together. We’ve gotten good at being honest with each other — at trusting the other’s good intentions and trusting in each other’s love. We can be ourselves around each other, and that’s a huge difference from either of our past relationships. So yes, in a way. Our love is deeper and better.
Post # 15
We were each other’s first relationship, period. Sometimes I wish that I hadn’t had to wait "so long" (I was only 18 when we started dating, but when I’d been wishing for a boy to "like" me since I was 12…), or that I’d been able to go through the silly puppy love stage more times, I’m also grateful that I didn’t have my heart broken, I didn’t make mistakes that I’d regret bringing to my husband, and I didn’t have to go through breaking up, ever. 🙂
Post # 16
My fiance and I started dating when we were 17. and have been together for nearly 8 years! We both have grown a lot since we started dating way back when…but luckily we have grown in the same direction! A lot of people give me funny looks when I tell them how long we have been together, but I wouldn’t have it any other way! 🙂