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    phedre    August 9, 2010   New Orleans, LA

    Today I was reading a wedding book and it basically stated that if the bride wears a "real" wedding dress, the groom and the groomsmen should be in tuxes.  This presents a problem as my FI HATES dressing up with a passion.  He wants to wear hawaiian shirts instead of a tux however, I went and bought a "real" wedding dress because it's my day darn it and I'm going to have MY dress!

    Anyway, my question is have any of you had or been to a wedding where the bride was more dressed up than the groom/groomsmen?  Did it look funny or out of place?  Was it off-putting?  I think we could find a way to make it work and I'm looking for inspiration online but haven't really found anything yet.  I want us both to be happy with what we are wearing but I also don't want the groom's side looking out of place.

    Also, if anyone has pictures, that would be helpful! Thanks, ladies :)

     
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    cardigan    January 7, 2011   Austin, TX

    Definitely nothing wrong with it! Would he be up for a suit instead of a tux?? I think that your guy should be able to wear what he's comfortable in and what makes him happy - it will look fine!

     
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    Chartreuse    March 6, 2010   Belize

    What about him and groomsmen wearing guayaberas....

    Matching Attire? :  wedding Bridal Party Wearing Guayaberas

    they are more formal than hawaiian shirts, yet just as comfortable and cool

    they also have long sleeve version, and all the colours of the rainbow...

    Matching Attire? :  wedding Guayabera Shirt

    my groomsmen are wearing them in long sleeve and lime green....and I have a "REAL" wedding dress...lol

     

     
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    artbee    February 28, 2010  

    i've been to plenty of weddings like that, i personally like the more casual wedding. i've even seen one with the groom in shorts!

    Matching Attire? :  wedding 339849286 D2xEa M

    Matching Attire? :  wedding 506606762 NH4dp M

     
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    mrformalaz       Phoenix

    Nothing says "special day" like shorts and guyabera shirts.     Wink

    Seriously, if it's important enough to you to wear a formal wedding dress, it should be important enough to both of you to see that he wears something appropriate.

     
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    amariem25    October 2009  

    I dont know, I think he should dress up more.  I really think it looks kind of funny when the groom doesn't dress up much (like in that second picture artbee posted above).  It just looks to me like the groom is disrespectful or not deserving of his bride.  I mean, he should at least wear khakis and nice buttoned shirt if you are wearing a wedding dress.  But I really vote for him wearing a suit or a tux.  Would he consider alternative color tuxes?  Like khaki, light grey, or brown?  They don't seem as dressed up as a formal black tux.

     
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    Ember78    December 15, 2012  

    There is no such rule. The only rule you need to follow is that the formality should be similar on both sides. If the groom doesn't want to wear a tux, then he is not required to.

     

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