Post # 1
As you might have seen from previous posts, I am batting around the idea of getting my BMs a plum pretty sugar-like robe for the morning of. But as one astute bee pointed out: perhaps the whole matching thing is a bit silly.
Then again, in spite of my age (30), I often do things that are “silly”.
And thus: a poll is born.
Post # 3
First, I love green beans too. 🙂
Second, I mean, yeah, I can see how enforcing a matching bridesmaids getting ready outfit may come across as trying too hard, but you know what? If that’s what you want, then why not? It’s your wedding day, and it’ll look great in photos.
Post # 4
@pengoala: and here’s the thing. I guess in a way it *is* trying too hard (I mean, look at how much I’m stressing over this) but from all the weddings I’ve seen on style me pretty, green wedding shoes, wedding chicks, etc….you’d think it was ABnormal NOT to match the girls. I’m pretty much the first of my girlfriends to get married (we’re all engaged, and now it’s going to be weddingpalooza in the next couple of years) …so I kinda don’t know what’s normal.
Post # 5
@ilovegreenbeans: At the end of the day, it’s about what’s going to make you happy on your wedding day. 🙂 It’s not about what every other girl is doing, or about what is right! I would just go with your heart here. If it helps any, I was not one of the girls who did the matchy-matchy bridesmaids and it all worked out just fine, but I do appreciate the beauty in those matching floral robes (and a part of me kind of wishes I did it just to say i did it!
Seriously though, just do what your heart desires. 🙂 It will all work out!
Post # 6
- Wedding: September 2012 - Southern California
I think being all matchy & girly is part of the game per se. I would totally wear matching outfits with the other bridesmaids on the day! I mean, if it was your birthday or a night out or something & you wanted us to match, I think I would laugh at you & classify that as “silly” ;]
Post # 7
@stephanie091512: I agree. It’s a wedding. I mean, generally aren’t your BMs supposed to match in some way? Even with the mismatched Bridesmaid or Best Man dress trend, they’re generally still supposed to look cohesive.
But of course I would agree, because I would love to do something like matching getting ready robes! Hahah.
Post # 8
@ilovegreenbeans: I see you’re getting married in July- have you taken into account how hot it might be wherever you’re getting married?
Post # 9
@Shkragoldfish: I should update that….we’re getting married in September at a pretty high altitude….so the air can be quite crisp!
Post # 10
It depends on your bridesmaids! I’ve been a bridesmaid many times and never done the matching getting-ready outfits thing, but it seems to be a relatively recent trend and I wouldn’t have objected to it.
For a bachelorette trip for my good friend’s wedding, we made matching tank tops that referenced an inside joke, our roles (bride, Maid/Matron of Honor, bridesmaids) and had the dates of the trip on them and they were a huge hit even though we were all pushing thirty and not particularly cutesy/girly girls.
Ask your girls if they’d be in to it! I think very few women would turn down a lululemon hoodie for any reason.
Post # 11
okay, cool- thanks for the update. I’d prefer the hoodie- I always wear them at home in the fall/winter or it could be easy to run errands in them and you can never have too many of them imo.
For the other options- I don’t really like or use robes that much & I already have one. I also don’t like floral print. I wouldn’t be able to use a button-down shirt after because I need them tailored and the monogram also kinda makes it unwearable after. All that said- your bridesmaids may be very different from me. who knows.
And I am a visual person, so I don’t think it’s the worst thing in the world to have your bridesmaids match while getting ready if your photog will be there (no matter your age). Especially if you’re buying the outfit and not acting as though it’s their gift. My post on it with another poll is here- http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/what-would-you-want-to-wear-while-getting-ready?replies=30#post-7235981 (I post a pic of what I’m getting for my ladies to wear at the end)
Post # 12
I don’t think it’s too much to do the whole matching outfit thing – you certainly don’t have to, but if you it would make you happy, why not?
If I were your bridesmaid, I would for sure prefer the Lululemon hoody, because it’s something I would actually wear again. All of those other options would likely go into the back of my closet (and then, let’s be honest, Goodwill), because I would never use them again after your wedding.
Post # 13
I love the idea of a zip up hoodie. You could definitely wear it again and it wouldn’t mess up your hair when you take it off! And I would love you forever if I was your bridesmaid and you got me anything from lulu!!!
Post # 14
I was in a wedding once that really made me realize the benefits of the matching glow. I happened to wear a pretty button down shirt to the hair salon, my friend, the bride, chose one that wasn’t quite as spiffy. Hers was a cotton plaid and my a blue and white stripe, and the contrast in photos was striking. I don’t think she had considered the pre-wedding festivities, and I had picked one that was pretty and made me feel good. I think it also had to do with fabric quality, my shirt was a Ralph Lauren and hers was probably a Blair catalog shirt which would have a different thread count consistency. Writing about it now might make it sound like I was being show-offy, but I really was just picking a pretty shirt that I thought would look nice for pre-wedding photos. Hers was a nice button down, but not the same quality, and it would have made a prettier photoshoot if our outfits coordinated a little bit. You never want to outshine the bride on her wedding day, so coordinating attire is helpful! I love Plum Pretty robes, and think they would be a great gift that would be reused! The hoodies are cute, but I think they tend to be better for a younger bride. I don’t think I would really be delighted with a hoodie, but a plum pretty robe would be special!
Post # 15
I think it also depends on how many bridesmaids ou have! I only have two, so I chose robes for them from Etsy (similar to PlumPrettySugar) … I think with two it’s better to be coordinating, but if you have what I call a bridesmaid army … then maybe it would look too much 😉
Post # 16
I love the look of the robes, but I wouldn’t be comfortable wearing them! A hoodie would be comfortable to me!