(Closed) Material worth or emotional value?

posted 7 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
11325 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

What exactly are they asking? The shape of it? Or is it an unusual color? I don’t know why someone would ask about your diamond. 

Post # 4
6572 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

I had that same issue, everybody would always ask me how big it is. I’m not going to ask my husband (then fi) that! First of all b/c I don’t care, and second of all b/c I don’t want him to think that matters to me when it just doesn’t. We ended up getting it recut b/c it was a family diamond and had some chips in it, so eventually I did learn the size but honestly I don’t even remember. I just tell people I don’t know and move on with the conversation.

Post # 5
2512 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Why can’t it just be that I love him and I love the ring and thats that?

I think it can!

Just tell them that you don’t know.

Post # 6
1701 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Generally, I think those are rude questions.  Unless someone asked what kind of cut it was (sometimes it is hard to tell a cushion from an asscher), IF it’s an unusual cut.  I would NEVER ask someone how many carats, what type of clarity, etc.

Post # 7
6394 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

I know what mine is (I helped pick it out), and I still brush off questions asking specifics. It’s 1/3 of a carat, which is kind of small for my area (though not as small as the big city bees :)), and it has a slight greenish/gray tint to it. I love it because of what it stands for (and because it’s sparkly), and I don’t really think strangers need to know all the nitty gritty details. 

Post # 9
1723 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I would be a gigantic smarta** and be like, “a diamond full of love!” haha, sorry, it’s one of those days…They’re probably asking because they want to tell their SO to get them one. πŸ™‚  I do think it’s a little rude to ask though.

Post # 10
383 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I agree that strangers don’t need to know (or anyone else for that matter!). I tell people that Fiance picked it out and did a fabulous job and leave it at that. I’ve purposefully not shown it or announced my engagement to certain busy bodies because I know they’ll ask and it’s none of their business. As long as I’m happy, that’s all that matters.

Post # 11
3866 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@MrsCoachBtoBee: lol, nice.

I could see me going something like this

q: what kind is it?

me: a diamond.

q: what kind of diamond?

me: a sparkly one. (complete with a sweet, innocent smile, lol)


yeah, I’d drive ’em nuts/crazy by keeping on with that kinda of running commentary.  it drives the person asking insane and they eventually give up when they realize you’re doing it to annoy the HELL out of them. πŸ™‚  BUT, only do this if you’re evil πŸ˜‰ otherwise, it probably won’t work πŸ˜‰

Post # 12
11172 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

People ask me constantly about the size of the center diamond, total carats etc. I am not offended and I know because we designed the ring together, but it is a bit personal.

If you aren’t comfortable with asking your man then perhaps just guess? If you look at photos online they have “sizing charts” so to speak if you really want to have an answer. If not then telling people you don’t know, don’t care etc is perfectly acceptable.

Post # 13
9029 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

people are just weird and ask unnecessary questions…

Post # 14
2116 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Some people ask me about the size of mine just to be nosey and to them, I say I don’t know. But I do know some girls about to get engaged and they are wondering to help get an idea of what they want… of course my ring is a symbol of our love for each other but- I have to admit, its the first REALLY nice thing I own in my life and that part is pretty special to me too

Post # 15
10565 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2011

Ugh, a saleslady asked me because customers asked her when I shopping for Bridesmaid or Best Man gifts.  It’s none of her business, and if she was any good she should have been able to give a price range to the other customers for something similar.  It’s not even like those strangers were even able to see my ring up close to know.

If you don’t want to know, then don’t.  I was curious and found out so I could get it insured.

Post # 16
2600 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I usually say stuff back like ‘Thanks, I’m not sure. But I love it!’ or something.  On occasion, depending on who asks I may tell them it was FIs grandmother’s but that’s it.

I know how much it cost (free)… but I have no idea what size the diamond is.  and I really, really don’t care.

I love it, I love that it came from Fiance… and total strangers that ask about it get nothing more than Thank yous and I don’t knows for asking.


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