Maternity Leave Question, my boss wants me to come in, need advice!!!

posted 3 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 2
127 posts
Blushing bee

I would look into the medical leave laws in your state, in Michigan you are able to take up to 12 weeks if you meet the requirements.

Post # 4
2930 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014


Christy42213:  I wouldn’t worry about until you speak with the manager.   I would take a hard look at what is best for you and your family’s future.  It may mean giving up this training opportunity until a future point.  If it is a yearly program, what would be the concequenses of putting it off one year.

Post # 5
6220 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

It is a reasonable request for your supervisor to want you to attend in-person training occasionally. It’s also reasonable of you to decline and enroll in this program at a later date.

The program itself probably has minimum attendance requirements and if you can’t meet those, then you won’t pass.

The logistics of an instructor managing in-person participants with dial-in/remote users is detrimental to all. In most cases, course materials (especially interactive ones) should be done in a single format: either everyone remote/dial-in or everyone in person. While you can (and should) still ask if you can participate remotely, don’t be surprised if the answer is No. The instructor should have final say on that, and if in their judgment it would take away from the in-person students to have the instructor also have to manage remote attendees, then you will either need to come in to the office for those events or enroll at a later date.

As for the flip flop, it may not be a flip flop at all. You may be at a different point in your pregnancy and new motherhood than other women at certain key milestones (maybe the other women had their babies earlier and their children were older and better able to be left in someone else’s care for these events, for example) or maybe the course materials, delivery, or government requirements have changed. I would not take this personally or assume I had been singled out.

Post # 6
1287 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Christy42213:  Hey, best guess based upon my experience:

Your FMLA will cover your employment, and hold your position, per what you wrote!  The participation in the program you applied for, and have been accepted would probably be (for lack of better words) compared to if you were going to school while pregnant, and thereafter.  There may be options for you to participate from home, but it may require you to attend class…etc.  I think if your boss recommends participating in the program while you are on maternity leave, it would be the only way for you to finish the program…

My best friend finished a 9-month training program (while working) to advance her career in our field.  She had her baby, and spent her entire maternity studying for the State Boards.  She was balancing being a new mom, and being at the library, making notecards, going to study sessions, etc.  She took the test a week before her maternity leave ended, and came back Licensed, etc.  She chose to apply for the program, of which the company paid for, and therefore had one shot to pass the exam on the company’s dime (or else she would need to front the money).  It was for her career, but not her career/position, so she needed to do those things during her leave 🙁


Post # 7
3769 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 1999

I think it would actually be pretty generous of them to allow you to continue in the program at this point. If you want to complete the program now I would just attend the few days, if that is what your boss asks of you. If not, the maybe delay the program until after you are back from leave.

Post # 8
2661 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014


Horseradish:  <—–What she said.  I work for the federal government as well (and have had 2 kids since coming to work here).  I would either give up my slot or go in occasionally to keep up with the class.

Post # 9
2725 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I don’t see anything wrong with this…it isn’t a requirement of your job, it’s a requirement of an optional training session you chose to sign up for. If they need you to come in,  and you don’t want to, then just push the training. It’s not necessarily ideal, but I’d argue that if everyone else has to be there it’s not fair to them that you don’t.

Post # 10
2234 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

Horseradish:  +1 All of this.

I see training as school.  While there are provisions to make reasonable requests, no one can demand that an instructor who teaches her class in a physical classroom should set up an online version.  It’s not fair to anyone involved.  That’s why people who can’t attend the class need to find an alternate class or push off the timeline.  (Or suck it up and go.)  This is especially true in training classes, at least in my experience.  A lot of my training classes had a practical element to them (ie recognizing physical hazards, using a fire extinguisher).

You don’t have to go to the training, but recognize that you wouldn’t get an automatic pass.  Just talk to the manager and see what your options are.

Post # 11
10384 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

The only thing that would give me pause is the technicalities surrounding coming and going with work during a regulated medical leave. There is a lot of legalities and red tape surrounding that. I was recently out of work on medical leave and it was an absolutel nightmare to come back on a reduced schedule. Talk with HR more about how that would work before making a decision.

Post # 13
966 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011


Christy42213:  I echo crayfish. I was told I absolutely could not work while on maternity leave due my being on disability leave. I would check with HR. I hope everything works out.

Post # 14
7664 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

I may not be so helpful here seeing as I am not US. However, I know that the UK has certain limitations regarding work during maternity leave. If you come in too many times during your leave, your leave is then considered to be over, and you are expected to return to work full time… I would check to make sure that this would not apply to you.

Post # 15
6220 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

FloridaGatorBride:  crayfish:  Excellent point and OP definitely should check into this because the very act of going to training can be seen as “working” (because it is in the workplace for your employer, etc) which may void your leave. I do not know how it works with FMLA so you really need to look into this.

My sister is a technical trainer for a city government and there was a big issue when a firefighter got injured on the job. He was to be re-trained into an IT professional role. But because he was going to employer-furnished classes, it actually violated his workman’s comp. They had to get the unions and the city counsel involved to re-write the charter of career retraining and it wasn’t a fast process.

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