Post # 1
Hey Bees!!! Okay so my FI and I went and opened a Matrimoney account. If you haven’t heard of it, its an account that people can put money into instead of gifts. We have a small registry at Bed Bath and Beyond but really want money because we have everything because we have been living together for over a year. I know alot of you think asking for money is really tacky I just want a little thing on the wedding website that says we have an account there. Please help!
Post # 3
- Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA
Put it in the same place as your registry information, let your guests decide which they’d prefer to do.
Post # 4
Thats what I was going to do I just want to know how to word it.
Post # 5
I would not mention this on your wedding website. Instead, I would simply use it as the account into which you would deposit any cash gifts and checks that your guests may choose to give to you.
Post # 6
I agree with @juliette.eliza. I would just put both registries on there (as though they’re both retailers) and not add any extra verbiage aside from the usual “Thanks for checking these out. Can’t wait to see you. Your presence is present is enough.” etc.). If people are interested, they can click on the link to contribute. I feel like adding extra verbiage is intentionally calling attention to it.
Post # 7
It depends on what you are asking. If you are asking about being polite, then the answer is very simple. You do not mention it at all. It is rude on 2 accounts. 1. Mentioning gifts at all 2. Mentioning cash and finances. Both are impolite and not discussed in polite society, let alone asked for or solicted.
If you are asking about what other people did (regardless of it’s status in etiquette), then I will leave that for other bees, because I didn’t do anything similar.
Post # 8
Okay so I will be the weirdo! LOL
When we got married, I put the registry information on the web site because I got tired of people calling and emailing to ask where we were registered. My MoH got tired of the same, and of walking people through how to find the account.
So, yes, I put the info on our web site. We had a honeyfund account and an Amazon universal wish list. We put a disclaimer that the only presents we wanted was their presence, and we didnt need gifts or expect them, but if they chose to gift us something, be it for a holiday or the wedding, this was where to go. And rather than just people giving us money, they “bought” us things for our honeymoon on the honeyfund by choosing where their gift ould go (IE, gift of $25 and they chose a bottle of wine, so in our thank you card we send them a pic of us with wine; or a gift of $20 for gelato and a snack, so we send them a pic of us enjoying our gelato they gifted us).
Then we also added a charity, and said that in lieu of gifts, we would welcome donations to charity.
To be honest, it worked well. Some people chose each of the options, and me and my Moh got to stop fielding calls from grandparents asking how to work the registry machine at Macys!!!
Post # 9
Linking to registries on the wedding website is perfectly acceptable. But I wouldn’t put any language explaining either one – let guests decide what they would prefer.
Post # 10
@andielovesj: @Brielle: oh could not agree more with you ladies.
Post # 11
@Brielle: I’m with Brielle on this one. I think that would be the best way to go about it without stepping on any toes.