Post # 1
I am having my Mother also be my Matron of Honor in my Wedding. Since this is unusual I am having to issues trying to decide what to do on the “Big Day”. My mother is getting up in years and I am afriad that having her stand up front with me (which could last 30 minutes or so) will not be very enjoyable for her. I think she would rather be seated up front so she can better enjoy things. Also, if I do the traditional head table set-up with only the wedding party, which will then separate her from my step-father. That leads into another issue, both my parents were divorced and remarried when I was 16. I feel in order to be fair by having my Mom and Step-dad at the head table I would then be required to have all of our parents(fiancee’s parents included) at the head table. That could be over 15 people, which in my eyes is too many. Plus my parents don’t get along since their divorce, so seating them at the same table could prove to be like torture for them, especially my Father(eyes rolling). Can I have my Mother play the MOB role at my ceremony? Then have her do the “Matron of Honor” speech at the reception? I can then still seat my parents at separtate tables. I have thought of different options and this is best I could come up with. Is this too weird? Am I taking away from my Mother by doing this?
Post # 3
How old is your Mother? Are you telling us that she is not well enough to stand up for the ceremony?
If she is healthy enough, I would have her walk in with the bridal party and stand beside you during the ceremony.
If she is truly not well enough to stand for the whole ceremony, I would still have her do the processional, then take a seat in the front row with your stepfather, or have a chair at the front for her to use during the ceremony.
You have two options for seating at the reception. She can sit at the head table and your stepfather could be seated at a table with other close family. (I’m presuming no other SO’s of the wedding party are going to be seated at the head table.)
Or, you could seat her at a table with your stepfather to avoid the seating issues regarding the other parents. She can come up to the head table for her speech.
Post # 4
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
Why not do a sweetheart table for you and FI? Or- do a bridal party (and their SOs-please keep couples together) table, except for the parents. Have three parent tables- Mom, Dad, and FI’s.
Post # 5
My mom is also my matron of honor. She’s only 50 so she’ll stand up there with me with the rest of the wedding party. I think your mom can walk donwn the aisle after the bm’s and then instead of standing can take her reserevd spot in front. Sfter the ceremony is over she can walk down the asile again after the last bm’s and right before you.
I am having a sweetheart/family table for just me, fi and our 3 kids. The wedding party will be intermixed in with our guests (most will have families there they can sit with).
Post # 6
@julies1949: Thank you for your reply. I guess the biggest issue is that fact that my mother is playing a double role. If I only have her play the Matron of Honor role I may not be able to include my FI’s mother in the ceremony(lighting the candles at the beginning). My mother and I both agree that her trying to play both roles during the ceremony is too complicated, so she would like to play the Mother of the Bride during the ceremony:-)
Post # 7
@rebwana: I kind of liked the idea of a sweetheart table but after I discussd it with my FI, he didn’t. He is very social and there are a lot of people traveling for our wedding and he does not wish to be “isolated” from them, which I understand. Thank you so much for your reply:-)
Post # 8
@rebwana: I think that I will talk to my Dad about the idea of a Tuscany type table setup. I think this fits best with what my FI and I both want. I think he can grin and bear it for one evening, no one is forcing him to talk to my mother lol