Matron of Honor dropped out-etiquette for informing curious friends/guests?

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2017 - Seattle, WA

I would just say “you will have to ask her yourself”.

Post # 3
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

Just say “unfortunately she wasn’t able to make it.” No one needs to hear more details. Don’t prolong the drama. 

Post # 4
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

Just asy that she couldn’t make it. Then move on to another topic. 

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Our Backyard/Steakhouse

Horseradish:  +1

Don’t further any drama and don’t discuss it.  A simple ‘Unfortunately she wasn’t able to make it’ and leave it at that indicates you don’t want to discuss it and its no one’s business.

Post # 6
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Busy bee

Horseradish:  totally agree. You will look like the bigger (and more mature) person if she chooses yo talk about it. 

Post # 8
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

I would respond, “Unfortunately, that didn’t work out,” and leave it at that.

Post # 9
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Helper bee

wow

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Church

bubbles83:  That totally sucks. I’m so sorry about that. Totally agree that horseradish’s phrase is the bestbecause it doesn’t give any information and is very neutral.

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

bubbles83:  This really is unfortunate- I’m sorry you have to deal with this.  Whatever you say, just keep it classy.  You don’t want to speak poorly about anyone, even if they are at fault.  Just say that due to a variety of factors, she wasn’t able to make it.  Be heartfelt, but don’t prolong it- drama isn’t classy.

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