Matron of Honor dropped out-etiquette for informing curious friends/guests?

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
1144 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: Seattle, WA

I would just say “you will have to ask her yourself”.

Post # 3
6220 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

Just say “unfortunately she wasn’t able to make it.” No one needs to hear more details. Don’t prolong the drama. 

Post # 4
9546 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

Just asy that she couldn’t make it. Then move on to another topic. 

Post # 5
743 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Our Backyard/Steakhouse

Horseradish:  +1

Don’t further any drama and don’t discuss it.  A simple ‘Unfortunately she wasn’t able to make it’ and leave it at that indicates you don’t want to discuss it and its no one’s business.

Post # 6
884 posts
Busy bee

Horseradish:  totally agree. You will look like the bigger (and more mature) person if she chooses yo talk about it. 

Post # 8
11027 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

I would respond, “Unfortunately, that didn’t work out,” and leave it at that.

Post # 10
1629 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Church

bubbles83:  That totally sucks. I’m so sorry about that. Totally agree that horseradish’s phrase is the bestbecause it doesn’t give any information and is very neutral.

Post # 11
260 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

bubbles83:  This really is unfortunate- I’m sorry you have to deal with this.  Whatever you say, just keep it classy.  You don’t want to speak poorly about anyone, even if they are at fault.  Just say that due to a variety of factors, she wasn’t able to make it.  Be heartfelt, but don’t prolong it- drama isn’t classy.

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