Post # 1
I have a bit of a dilemma.
I had decided awhile ago that I’d love to have one of our close friends as our officiant, she’s ordained and we’ve known her for some time.
But I REALLY want her to be a matron of honor at my wedding, mainly because she’s an excellent person when it comes to being there for myself and my Fiance, and because she’s the only who stepped up when it came to helping me with the wedding. My Maid/Matron of Honor is actually my best friend who is a man, and choosing a female Maid/Matron of Honor would help with the instinctual organization and party planning skills.
I’m not sure what to do – I was going to ask her if she’d like to choose, but I feel thats a bit tacky.
I need a lot of help on this, as I gotta get the ball rolling on my bridesmaid stuff – I’m sooo far behind.
Miss Choco Milk
Post # 3
Why can’t she do both? My brother in law is one of FI’s groomsman and is also marrying us. I don’t think it needs to be one or the other.
Post # 4
@MrsMaine: I feel like I’m asking too much. I’d LOOOVE for her to be both. How would you feel if one of your best friend’s asked you to be both? Would you be okay with it? I just keep going through the entire list of Maid/Matron of Honor duties and then to think of what she’d have to do as our officiant, I cringe! lol
Post # 5
@Miss Chocolate Milk: I think it will be okay. Definitely talk to her and tell her what you would like, and see if she’s willing to take on the task. One of my FI’s groomsmen is also doubling as our officiant. I was worried that it was out of the ordinary, but it seems like it happens! If she’s okay with it, then I think you should totally do it that way!
Post # 6
@Miss Chocolate Milk: Definitely talk to her about it! I think she’d be more flattered than overwhelmed!
Post # 7
I personally feel like it would be a bigger honor to marry you than to just be Matron of Honor… that means that you’re trusting her to join you in marriage, not just asking her to stand by your side.
That being said, if she is willing to be your officiant, you could always ask her to wear a dress that coordinates with the BMs and list her in the program as Matron of Honor as well- I mean, just by having her be your officiant, you are in a way giving her a position of honor, so it’s not much of a stretch at all!
Post # 8
Thank you thank you so much for that. After much debate with myself and your wonderful advice, I’ve decided to ask her to be both. I finished making my Bridesmaid or Best Man cards, and within her card I made her a poem asking her to be both:
Wish me luck, I REALLY hope so says YES!!!! 🙂
Much love and thanks,
Miss Chocolate Milk