Mattresses and prior sexual partners

posted 7 years ago in Intimacy
  • poll: What is your current mattress situation?
    New mattress—we are the only two people that have had sex on this mattress : (142 votes)
    57 %
    New-ish mattress—neither one of us has had sex with someone else,but other people have had sex on : (24 votes)
    10 %
    Old mattress—I have had sex with someone other than my SO on this mattress : (44 votes)
    18 %
    Old-mattress—SO has had sex with someone other than me on this mattress : (29 votes)
    12 %
    Other- explain below : (11 votes)
    4 %
  • Post # 3
    3624 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    We got a brand new mattress for xmas.

    BUT, before that, we had a mattress that BOTH – Other people have had sex on AND – Fiance has had sex on with other women.

    Post # 4
    601 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    I bought my mattress when I was engaged to my ex about 4 years ago. It was a brand new $1000 mattress that I wasn’t going to give up just because we split. Once we move into a new place, we’re going to get a new one.

    Post # 5
    2392 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    When we moved in together, it was my mattress and his bedframe.  I got the mattress about 6 weeks before I met him, but um… nope definitely not just us.  I don’t even want to think about how many people have bounced that bedframe.  He was a skanky dude when he was single.  I mean, if he can make me look prudish…

    Post # 6
    5572 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    The mattress that we have is FI’s and he’s a virgin sooo nope!
    We do still have the blanket that I lost my virginity on though LOL

    Post # 7
    3709 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    We aren’t currently living together but when I met Fiance he had just bought a new house with all new furniture so no prior sex partners there. As for me, I replaced my mattress set b/c Fiance didn’t want to lay his head on a mattress where “some other dude has been wallowing on” <= his words…I use a waterproof mattress pad on my mattress anyway. 

    Post # 8
    3871 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    We got a new mattress when we both moved out of our parents houses. 

    Before then, I’m pretty sure the mattress stayed with the room, so whoever was in the room (like my siblings) may have done it.

    I’m not going to try to think of that stuff, it skeeves me out.

    Post # 9
    893 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    Ours is a hand-me-down from his parents….


    Post # 10
    2091 posts
    Buzzing bee

    Our matress used to be in my mom’s spare bedroom – it’s a futon matress actually. I don’t *think* anyone’s had sex on it since people didn’t stay in the spare room that often.

    Post # 11
    4480 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

    Ew. 🙂

    We got a new mattress a little after we moved in together, and I had a new mattress before that (we didn’t take mine when we moved in together, even though it was new and comfy, because it was a queen and we [he] wanted a king). His was OLD. I’m sure he had it already when he had his last girlfriend before me, and it was old then. If I thought about it, it probably would have weirded me out, momentarily, but I didn’t really think about it. I don’t know if the previous owner had sex on it, but there has been whispers that he DIED on it. If anyone had told me that before we got rid of it, there is no way it would have come with us to the new place for even a few weeks. Seriously. Gross.

    That said, I think Mr. Spaniel’s ex picked his comforter (that we still use). I got the idea in my head that it ABSOLUTELY MUST BE REPLACED IMMEDIATELY as soon as the thought crossed my mind… but I haven’t done anything about it because, like the mattress, I really don’t think about it (much ;).

    Post # 12
    13099 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    Ours is a new matress.  We bought it together when we moved to TX.

    Unless someone had sex on it while it was in the store …..

    Post # 14
    238 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    We sleep on a mattress that we got for free from a college roommate of my Fiance. I have no idea who owned it before he did. It’s funny this thread came up though because just last night Fiance and I were joking about how many people had probably had sex on our bed. We don’t really care though- we’re just glad it doesn’t have bedbugs!

    Post # 15
    1556 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    We have a brand-new mattress that we bought shortly before we became engaged.  We do, however, us a comforter he had when he was with his ex.  I was a bit creeped out by it, but he told me that with her they each had their own blankets…they did not share blankets at all.  He then says, “You are the only woman I have ever shared this or any other blanket with.”  After that, I couldn’t object to it…

    Post # 16
    4755 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I like to not think about it but… I don’t honestly know, but my guess is he has… he’s also slept in my bed where I’ve boned other dude before. Unrealistic expecation to have. And an insanely stupid question to ask. In my opinion.

    How absurd it would be for a sexual being to ditch a matress for each new partner. Sounds 100% ridiculous to me.

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