- 6 years ago
- Wedding: September 2012
Ok, so I have a bit of an issue and I need some advice. My wedding is in 22 days and my fiance and I are maxed out with the amount of guests we can have at our venue. We are paying for everything ourselves, so we have already (firmly but nicely) told our respective sets of parents that they cannot invite additional guests and have declined some people based on their requests. That’s fine, everyone is ok with it, they understand, whatever (at this point, we’re saying no based purely on space, but still my dad and his dad have offered to pay for their additions, which I think is tacky, but truthfully, wouldn’t refuse if we could accomodate them, since our budget is rapidly draining).
Anyways, I have finalized our seating chart, finalized our food count with our catering company, finalized the number of programs printed, finalized the table/chair/linen rentals, etc. Pretty much, everything is perfectly planned out the way it is and we’ve cut-off adding even one more person. So last night, one of my bridesmaids asked if she could bring a date. Granted, her invitation did say “and guest”, since we are allowing our bridal party and single friends to bring someone. However, the RSVP cut-off has passed (almost 2 weeks ago) and I specifically called her to ask if she would be bringing someone almost a week ago – to which she replied “no, most likely not” and since she isn’t dating anyone, I penciled her in as being just one. Then yestrday, when I asked who she would want to bring, she said “a friend” (?!!?). I told her that unfortunetly, I had already confirmed everything for our final count and honestly, we really don’t have anymore space available. She said she understood, but I think she’s a little miffed. I also pointed out that she will know a ton of people at the wedding and there are quite a few coming as singles (I think she was upset by that, like I was calling her out or something as not dating anyone).
So now, I’m having second thoughts. I honestly don’t know where I would fit in this “friend” – she’s in the wedding party, so he would be alone during the cermony and her table is full for the reception. I have one seat left at a family table, but he wouldn’t know a soul and it would be sooooo awkward having a random younger person at that table with my future in-laws. Plus, I’m pretty sure I don’t even know the guy! Still, she is the only person in the bridal party who doesn’t have a date (which wasn’t the case when we got engaged, but now everyone else happens to be in a relationship, and we’ve met/hung out with all of their significant others). I know she’s feeling left out of the whole relationship thing and it might be hard to see everyone paired up. I just don’t know what to do now! Was I right in telling her that she couldn’t bring someone, or should I suck it up and try to rearrange everything to make room?