Weddingbee boards

I try to keep up with my knot email.  They give me the monthly checklist and I cross my fingers I have done it already.  I need to find someone for hair and make up.  Other than that... I think the major things are done? 

What does everyone else consider the "BIG" things? I get nervous I'm missing something

Venue

Florist

DJ/Band

Dress

Photographer

Officiant 

What else am i missing?

I haven't truly started either! I have ideas and have contacted the venue and the caterer but haven't signed any contracts. Guess I never thought about how fast the months will go once the holidays are upon us. Hmm possible freak out moment approaching.

On the one hand I feel like I have a lot done but on the other I still haven't booked or even really considered the caterer, the cake baker, the DJ, the ceremony musicians... and I'm DIY'ing the STDs and the invites and as per my own little timeline the STDs should have gone out this month and haven't even ordered the paper yet.  PLUS I've had a mini religious meltdown because short version is this.... FI grew up Methodist and still considers himself Methodist.  I grew up Baptist, went to college and converted to Catholicism, went through confirmation, the whole nine yards, was very active in my parish while in college, then moved home.  The parish in my hometown is very small and really has no young people that go to it and while everyone is extremely nice, I started going back to the church I grew up in.  So except for Holy Days of Obligation I hardly attend Mass but still consider myself to be Catholic (now I know some would not consider me to be a good Catholic, but once Catholic always Catholic)  Anyway, my childhood pastor naturally assumed that he would be marrying us when we announced our engagement.  As a matter of fact, FI has never even been to Mass with me only to my Baptist church.  Of course, FI knows I'm Catholic... not sure if his family does though.  So the point of all of this (so much for being a short story), is that I guess I've known all along but I'm worried about my marriage not being considered valid in the Catholic church because we won't have been married in a Catholic ceremony.  I haven't talked to FI about my concerns yet beause I want to get all the facts from my priest so I can go to the table with all the information.  Plus, I'm very concerned that some of FI's family is going to flip out because I'm Catholic.  As a matter of fact I'm the only Catholic on my side of the family too but they're all cool with it.  So long story short, even though technically we have our venue, which is outside and even if I can work things out the get married in a Catholic ceremony an outside ceremony is a no-no, so now I don't know what to put on the STDs and invites :/ So i'm having a mini-nervous breakdown!  Sorry for the long drawn out meltdown :(

@vmec:  True :)  I know it's possible I just am unsure of the process we have to go through and if FI will be up for it and how his family will react.  I actually think in the end everything will be fine but I'm a worry wart so I always stress out and then it's all ok haha

@Aubergold Is there something holding you back from getting a dress? Have you started shopping for one yet and trying styles on? 

@Aubergold Ha---well congrats! A similar thing happened to me when I found the one. I went by myself to a sample sale w/no intention of actually purchasing a dress and of course, that's when I found my girl "Julianna." Don't you feel like a weight has been lifted off your shoulders? I seriously felt so relieved once I bought my dress :)

I keep on plugging away at things, I'm working on the cake and transportation now.  All the basics are covered, we have the hotel, I ordered funny bibs (we're having bbq) and I'm looking at favors and starting to think about grooms attire.  I would LOVE to get everything done now and not worry, but I know that's not possible.  I hate scrambling.  I think since I'm in a bigger city there's more of a time crunch- bakeries and everything gets booked up much more in advance!