Post # 1
I’m really torn. I love it here at wedding bee, but I think I may need to say goodbye to all of you girls. Here is my reason why.
I told someone about wedding bee. I love it here so much and figured since she was planning a wedding too, that she would find it really helpful here, just as I have. Well, my good intentions backfired.
I have posted a couple vents about people and my bridal party. But thats all they are, vents. I just need to get some things off my mind to clear my head and keep moving forward. They don’t mean anything, nothing I even need to talk to my bridal party about. I just need to vent.
This girl I told about wedding bee showed some of my bridal party these vents. It ended up not being a big deal, as we talked about it and worked everything out just fine, but it is really frustrating. I love the fact that I can come here, tell my thoughts and feelings to an unbiased 3rd party, and have you guys help me look at it all from a different perspective and calm me down. I feel like anything and everything I post on here now, she will see and tell people.
I don’t know what to do. I love it here and want to continue talking and sharing ideas and stories and such, but I just feel like have to monitor everything I write. So, it may be time for me to say goodbye, even though I don’t want to. I am so frustrated that I even talked to my FI about it! 🙂
So, I am asking for advice once again hive. What do I do?!
Post # 3
Hmmm that majorly bites. I am definitely not an advocate of changing names etc, but in this case I probably would change my name or ask administrators if at all possible you can have a name change due to privacy issues (i don’t think that they can do it, but who knows, all they can say is no, you know?). But I don’t like it when anyone leaves the hive, I feel as though you are my friend so you have to stay 😛 LMBO!!
Post # 4
Oh no she didn’t! You are staying. Change your profile name, be mindful of what you post so there are no direction connections to you and stay around the hive. It’s a shame because she will soon realize that sometimes you need to vent about your wedding party and in no way is it to be mean… you just need a release.
Post # 5
I agree. I wish you wouldn’t go, and I’m most concerned that this girl- not in your BP- showed the posts to them. I would question HER more than the bee! If you need to change your name, do it… but stay with us! No one else on the bee will judge you or tell your BP! Promise 🙂
Post # 6
Some people just love to stir up trouble. It sucks for you but don’t let her get the best of you! Change names if you have to but don’t leave. I would hate for you to have to give up such a great resource because of someone else’s bad behavior. And take solace in knowing karma will take care of it eventually!
Post # 7
wow, I can’t believe all the friend/fellow bride drama I see on here…people need to grow up! Though, this is why I purposely stay anonymous and haven’t posted any pics…I need to be able to vent! Of course if you knew me and read my posts in order, you’d know it’s me…but not likely to happen. 😉
I hope you don’t leave WB over this.
Post # 8
some people just create new user names when they need to write a post about something annonymous. Good luck. That must have been a truly uncomfortable situation, but I’m glad you were able to work through it.
Post # 9
Wow! How obnoxious. (I hope she is reading this right now cause girlfriend… that move wasn’t cool).
I say change your name – you’ve gotten a lot and given a lot of support through Bee.. don’t leave
Post # 10
Maybe you could just start a new account and reacquire anonymity. I wouldn’t give up WB, I would just start a new account that she didn’t know. Even, as PP mentioned – if you just set up an account for vents only.
Post # 11
That’s a really hateful, back-stabbing thing to do. I sincerely hope you don’t leave WB because of it. Sometimes, venting is just venting, and if you don’t let it out, you’ll explode. Talk to the admins about changing your username. If they can do it when someone becomes a Blogging Bee, perhaps they can make it work for you, too.
Post # 12
I was actually wondering about this yesterday, as I’ve begun to refer some people to this site.
Question – Did you tell her your name on WB?
I would probably do a name change, b/c we do love you here and you’ve commented on some of my questions and shed some light on things for me!!
Post # 13
Get a name change or a new account and come back bigger, better and stronger than ever girl! It bites that a friend did that – especially as we all do that about our weddings from time to time. This is exactly why I haven’t referred anyone yet though – I love WeddingBee and I quite like my divide between WB and my real life and don’t quite want them to mesh yet.
Post # 14
Oh wow, that’s actually why I don’t suggest WB to my friends.. b/c I come here to vent and be way more honest than I would in real life. I also think you should get a new profile and start over!
Post # 15
I think you should just change your name…
Post # 16
But even if you changed your name, your old posts would show up under that new username… and since she has the URLs of your posts from before, it’d be pretty easy for her to find your new username!
I like the idea to create a secondary username for when sharing more private posts… it’s really the only way to guarantee anonymity.