(Closed) May I …

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
331 posts
Helper bee

@Ms.BlueEyes: I can see where it can seem like that or even be that way in particular relationships. I had this issue in the beginning of my relationship with my now former Fiance (he would make decisions without me). He eventually grew up a bit and came around, lol.

The way I see it, it’s not asking for permission so much as respecting their preference or, really, just being plain ol’ considerate of the other person’s feelings.

Post # 4
591 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2012 - St. Philip Catholic Church/Arcadia Brewing Co.

I don’t think I would ask permission per se, but I would let Mr. Aardvark know before I went out. I may phrase it as a question… but I can’t imagine him saying “no” or what I would do if he did say no for that matter!

It’s more just a hey, this is what I am doing fyi thing.

Post # 5
1562 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I will give my husband a heads up if I make plans, but I don’t ask.  Sometimes I will check first if it’s a weekend night because sometimes we may have plans together that I could have forgotten about.  

Post # 6
5786 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2011

I ask my Darling Husband but its not so much a permission thing as a being considerate thing. My Darling Husband does say “No” once in awhile but its usually during the weeks I try to go out three nights in a row or forget we’re supposed to go to dinner with his parents. He deserves me time too so I usually respect his wishes when we have a conflict.

Post # 7
1542 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I don’t think of it as ‘asking for permition’ it’s more like, let me check if he doesn’t have plans for us already, that has happened.

Post # 8
3982 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I don’t ask Mr. Hedgie for permission. I do ask just to make sure there wasn’t anything already planned that I didn’t know about/ remember.

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