- 3 years ago
- Wedding: June 2014
I am not looking for any advice or telling me I am right or wrong. This is just a vent, plain and simple.
My FH and I have an awesome relationship and it is not the most traditional/normal relationship but it works for us.
First, we have no secrets between each other, while we both have our own bank accounts(we are planning on adding a joint one for saving after we are married) but we know each others PINs and info for them, we know each others passwords for each other emails and facebook(though we rarely look at each others, only if the other asks us to).
Second, I have had mostly guys as my friends because I have always gotten along with them better than women but thats a different story. Anyways, I will hang out with them and everything sometimes with my FH others by myself. First thing I am always asked is if they are guy, and only one of them is, the rest are straight. Now we do “play flirt” and we kiss each others cheeks(though I do that to just about everyone I have known and close to) my FH has no problem with it because he knows I or them would never do anything.
Third, FH used do freelance work with the WWE NXT for a little over a year, and he was/is close to most of the people who worked there along with the wrestlers/divas. Now anyone who knows of this and the divas knows how they dress and act(though all of them are actually really smart and everything). They would go and come up to him and give him a hug/kiss on his cheek. Now they all knew he had a girl(wasn’t engaged yet when he started), and they all knew all about me and what I looked like before I met them physically.
The fourth and last thing that no one really understands is that neither of us really cares if the looks and share what we think. If my FH sees someone he thinks is cute or hot he says and the same if I see someone who I think is cute or hot I will tell him. We want to be honest and everything with each other and we both understand too that even though we love each other with all our heart and only want to be with each other, that we will still be attracted to others the main thing is that neither of us act on it physically.
I also have no problems with strip clubs, porns, or anything like that.
Now I know our relationship is not for everyone and I am not saying mine is better than anyone elses nor worse. Each couple has to figure out what works for them to make it be best for their own. I will never judge another person relationship because it is not my place to do so. I have been told how neither of us would work out and how we would end up cheating or something on each other. We have been together so far for 4 years, getting married in 2 months now, and are beyond strong. Even before we were together we were best friends.
Again I am not looking for any type of advice or anything like that, this is just a vent for being annoyed of people telling me my relationship will not work.