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    PutABirdOnIt    December 30, 2010   Los Angeles, CA

    I was killing some time here today and I saw the title of a post with the words Bi-Polar in the title and because I happen to suffer from Bi-Polar II, I was interested because I thought maybe it was going to something about living with it, etc.  Well, it was about not being able to decide on wedding colors.

    First of all, not being able to choose between lavender and chocolate does make you Bi-Polar, maybe Schizophrenic, but not Bi-Polar.  Kidding:)  My point is, please be careful choosing your words, especially when it relates to mental illness. I've also seen the word retard slung around here too. 

    I know for a fact that this person did not mean to offend anyone.  And I'm an easy-going, jokey person who likes to have fun here. So, I'm not I'm not scolding anyone.  I just wanted to ask people to be more aware.  That is all. Thank you:)

     
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    Birdie Love    May 7, 2011   CA

    I cringed when I saw that too (even though I did comment on color choice). I'm sure she didn't mean to offend. It's like people who casually toss around that they're "so OCD" when, if you look at the DSM-IV, they're not.

     
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    Gemstone    July 2011   Cincinnati

    I think we can all use a friendly reminder from time to time to be aware of how we come across to others. Thanks! :)

     
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    elivt    June 16, 2012  

    thank you! I'm about a month away from my MSW, and this use of language always bothers me. English is a pretty remarkable language, with a lot of words in it- I wish people could find ways to describe things that weren't hurtful to people who suffer from/experience mental illness.

    And yay for person-first language, too!

     
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    PutABirdOnIt    December 30, 2010   Los Angeles, CA

    Oh, I know she didn't mean anything by it.  Honestly, I was kind of bummed when I saw it wasn't going to be a place to bitch about being Bi-Polar. lol

    And thank you for understanding.

     
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    egb    January 2010  

    I'm happy your brought it up. I studied mental disorders and worked with people suffering from it and the misuse of terminology bothers me too.

     
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    organizedbride11    November 11, 2011   Illinois

    No harm in a reminder from time to time. Thank you.

     
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    PurpleUnicorn    April 19, 2011  

    @Birdie Love: i think in those cases, it would be more accurate if people said "I am so OCPD"   ;)    

    and i agree with the OPs post too as someone who works in the mental health field

     
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    HappilyEverAfter54    June 23, 2012   Central Pennsylvania

    My mothers bi-polar, her fathers also bi-polar... I'm borderline... =( I hope it skips my son =( =( =(

    I actually saw that post and thought it would be someone talking about actual bi polar disorder too... It's always nice to have people to talk to (since my friends don't understand it and my families not close). Oh well.

     

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