Post # 1
This is probably a silly question but I am just wondering where do we go/what do we do after the recessional?
We’re having a small outdoor courtyard wedding so once we’ve walked back down the aisle, do we just stop to allow guests to come up to us/congratulate us etc, or do we shoot straight off with the photographer?
I just don’t want it to feel awkward, as in we stop and everyone is still sitting down watching us and wondering what to do next. Maybe get the Best Man and Bridemaids to usher them out behind us?!
What have other bees done?
Post # 3
My FI and I won’t really have too much time between the end of our ceremony and the beginning of our reception, and we aren’t doing a First Look.
So off with the photographer we will go!
Post # 4
Guests usually stand for recessional, and most know to leave right after, first row first.
You can either move to where you will do a receiving line, or head off right away for photos.
Post # 5
In indoor weddings usually the first row of guests follows the bridal party out, and the rest of the guests follow row by row. I have seen outdoor weddings where the bridal party does a receiving line right after the processional, you could stay and visit or you could leave with the photographer. I think all those options are fine.
Post # 6
Good question. I’m curious too. Our cocktail hour will be about 20 steps from the ceremony site so even if we walked over there…we’d just be standing there staring at people waiting for them to walk over? LOL.
Post # 7
I plan to just GTFO with the photographer and wedding party haha. More time for pics! I was just at a wedding this summer and they hung around for 45 minutes after… and ended up way late for dinner because they still had to finish pics.
Post # 8
@winterbride1593: hmm..that might be a good solution for us.
Post # 9
You could shoot off with the photog, or you could go back and usher your own guests out. It’s a variation of a receiving line that is done where I grew up in the USA. We’re doing that for our wedding because we want everyone outside to do bubbles as we make our grand exit (no big exit after our reception as it’s a family party basically). The logistics of it:
1- after you walk down the aisle as husband and wife, you take a minute or so while your bridal party makes their way down the aisle and then get your officiant to mention that everyone needs to stay in their seats as the bride and groom will come and dismiss them. Or it could be in the program.
2- then you’ll go back up to the front and dismiss everyone row by row. This gives every person there a chance to congratulate you and ensures you don’t miss anyone later on (if it’s a good-sized wedding).
Since you’re having an outdoor wedding, I don’t really know how well this would work. But it would mean that you guests aren’t left wondering where to go after the ceremony.
When I told my fiance about this, he thought I was crazy. I guess it’s not really done here in NZ, but we’re going to make it work so that we get everyone outside the church before we do our exit and ride off on the motorcycle (can’t wait for that!).
Post # 10
Thanks everyone, I think we’ll prob have the bridal party walk out behind us and then the other guests will follow them then we can mingle for a few mins before shooting off for photos. the guest can then go to cocktail hour. It makes sense to do it that way and we won’t feel awkward!
Post # 11
We decided to skip the receiving line and greet people during dinner instead. So when we did the processional we walked off to a private area off to the side (still outside, just away from the ceremony site), and we had the officiant announce for us that if they would just go through the doors behind them and to the right into the building, the cocktail hour would begin in just a moment.
Post # 12
I’m not sure if North America is different, but here in Australia (and you’re practically Australia ha ha) I think at every single wedding I’ve been to (more than 20) the bride and groom mingled after the ceremony. I’ve can’t think of one where they shoot straight off for photos. You stand around and people congratulate you, kiss you, take snaps, shower you with confetti, etc.
Post # 13
I’m not sure if you should mingle before the photographs. That might mess up your schedule and there’s always that distant relative who wants to talk all night! I’ve definitely had some awkward moments after the bride and groom walk down the aisle, because I never know if there’s a cocktail hour!
Some ways to help clear that up are programs, or the officiant makes an announcement after you and the bridal party leave that there is a cocktail hour before the reception (and where the guests can go for it). Those have always helped me as a guest!
Post # 14
we had an arch of sabers right after our ceremony, so as soon we were out the door and in the lobby, we went into the bridal room to wait. once everyone had gathered outside, we went out and walked thru the arch. when the arch was done, we got a few congratulatory hugs from the marines and close family and then headed back into the church for pics.
Post # 15
I’m sure your wedding cooridnator will tell you where to go, when you have your rehersal dinner, if you do. If not, just ask your cooridnator of the venue.