Maybe AF is coming: vent sesh.

posted 3 years ago in TTC
Post # 2
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

I would recommend you read Taking Control of Your Fertility (I found a copy on Amazon for $.14) and begin charting your cycles. I too recently came of BC (2 weeks ago) and it often takes your body some time to get back to its usual cycle (though not always). Do you chart? I would suggest charting if you don’t. It combines BBT (Basal Body Temperature) and checking your Cervical Mucus (CM) every day to determine when you are fertile or not. It really lets you know a lot about your body and can help if you’re TTC.

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

GreaterisHE:  No, I’m TTA. Won’t TTC until next summer. It is actually not stressful at all, but eye opening. It only takes a couple of minutes a day and is really showing me what my body is doing. This month is definitely a bit off, but like I said I’m just coming off BCP after almost a decade on them. 

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

GreaterisHE:  I’ve heard of people having really long cycles after coming off BC. There’s no way of knowing and because of this your fertility calendar could be way off. There’s no way of knowing for sure if you’ve Od yet. If I were you I’d chart or at least use opks in your next cycle. Charting is actually not stressful at all. I’ve been charting for 6 cycles and I’ve Od on cds 14-20. There’s no way I would have caught O last month without charting.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

GreaterisHE:  I also recommend charting. It’s really simple. Take your temp every morning with a basal body thermometer right when you wake up. Don’t get out of bed and take it. The second you wake up. It’s good to keep on a nightstand for easy reach. It’s also very important that you take your temp at the same time every day, so set an alarm. Download the fertility friend app and input your temps. You can also input cervical mucus and cervix position to help pinpoint when you ovulate, but it’s not necessary.

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

GreaterisHE:  Here are the basics (but seriously…read Taking Control of Your Fertility) to help. I have an account with FertilityFriend.com. You start charting the first day of full, red flow and then continue from there to see the length of your cycles. You take your temp first thing in the morning before you get out of bed. Most women’s temps are lower before they ovulate and have a day where their temp shifts up (somewhat dramatically) to show that they have ovulated and are producing more progesterone. You check your CM at least 3 times a day (internally at your cervix or externally at the vaginal opening) because CM typically (but NOT always…women are unique) follows this pattern, dry (after period), sticky, creamy (nearing fertile window), eggwhite (when you’er at your MOST fertile…the best to help sperm get to the egg), then back to dry/sticky before your period arrives. FertilityFriend.com lets you input these pieces of data each day and keeps track of it so you can visualize what is happening with your body. Once you do that for a few cycles and if everything appears to be happening “normally”, you’ll have an excellent idea of when to time sex so you can concieve or when to use other barrier methods to avoid pregnancy. Whew…sorry, that’s long!

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

GreaterisHE:  I just wanted to write and say I understand your frustration. We tried 4x last month – all during or up during 2 fertile periods. 

I keep track of everything on a chart app that I really like but I’m scared something is wrong with me. I’m 36, never pregnant… We aren’t trying to put a ton of pressure on ourselves but at the same time I’m worried. I do try to relax and just enjoy life but today (Mother’s Day) was really hard and AF came this morning as if to say, “Ahhh Haaaa!! And you thought you would be a mommy today?” That’s how it felt anyway. 🙁

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

GreaterisHE:  Thanks.

I went to see a dr for a fertility consult in Oct/Nov of last year. We haven’t been trying actively until maybe Feb of this year. We have been under a lot of stress so I wonder sometimes if that is it. But then I see all these people that have awful, stressful lives and they get pregnant. It’s an anomly. I don’t get it. 

The dr said she wanted me to try for a year before seeing her again to worry. I am trying to just enjoy things and not think about it but sometimes it gets the best of me. If I were younger I might not think much about it. 

How about you?

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

Coral99:  At 36 you should see someone and get more tests done after actively TTC for 6 months. Not to worry you but it’s no harm to make sure all is ok.

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

phoebephoebo: Dr. said not to worry and wait a year of actually trying. She didn’t seem concerned. Since we really hadn’t been trying since Feb, I figured I would give it until end of summer and then find another dr if it didn’t happen. I am also going to look into a test that measures the health of your ovaries and ovary reserve. But a part of me is a little comforted that both my maternal grandmother and my aunt (mom’s identical twin) had babies in their 40’s. 

GreaterisHE:  I am, although I forget sometimes! Do you? 

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

Coral99:  You really aren’t trying that long but I only mentioned it because your doc said a year. I went after 6 months and was happy I did. Im 35 and got AMH (ovarian reserve) and results are really reassuring. 

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