"Maybe" from an uninvited guest…

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
2831 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

just say that due to venue size restrictions, you have a strict number of guests that have been invited, and she was not one of them.

Post # 3
2364 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

af123:  Well seeing as though it was rude of her to suggest to you that she was invited in the first place lol, I don’t think there’s anything wrong with you telling her like it is; budget, small guest list, you’re not on it.  

It doesn’t sound like you’d be burning any bridges by doing so, either.  Honesty is the best policy! 

Post # 4
291 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

well, if she only saw the save the date at her parents….maybe she will get the hint when you send out invitations and she doesn’t recieve one.


Post # 5
4145 posts
Honey bee

Could you ask her parents to gently explain to her that she nor her bf are actually invited?

Post # 6
965 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

I would straight up say it was a small venue and we didn’t invite any second cousins because it wouldn’t be fair to cherry pick and you simply could not invite everyone. 

Post # 8
5697 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

You respond and kindly say what you said above, that due to budget and space restrictions you had to limit your guest list. You hope her parents can come and represent the family. 

Post # 9
89 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

since she’s mentioned it to you, and she and her BF seem to be making plans, I wouldn’t just ignore her at this point and wait for the invitations. I’d simply say, “Oh, I’m glad you liked our save the date I sent to your parents. There must have been a misunderstanding because, Unfortunately we have limited space, and aren’t able to invite all of our extended families.”

Post # 10
335 posts
Helper bee

I would mention something now, as much as the conversation sucks, because you said she was trying to figure out a way to come and it would be best to have the talk before she’s actually made plans and travel arrangements. Just explain the situation and hopefully she gets it then.

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