Post # 1
Our wedding is 78 days away and I’ve had this feeling of malaise for about a week and a half now. I guess there’s just been a lot going on.
We’re buying a house, which is stressful enough I suppose. But I’m also healing from a pretty bad back injury which was also stressful. Also, the reality of my wedding versus the vision I’ve been carrying around for a year is becoming more apparent which isn’t bad, just strange. I don’t want my wedding to be over. I don’t want to elope or anything along those lines. I’m trying to figure out what I’m feeling.
Has anyone else experienced this?
Post # 3
I’m having a hard time too. My FH has a totally different vision than I do and trying to make both work is stressful. We are doing the reception more his style, but I picked a place we both like. However, he wants to do JOP and I’ve always wanted the pretty ceremony, walking down the aisle… UGH! It’s not going the way I always thought it would and seems, like you said, strange. After spending so much time on it I’m going to feel weird when it’s over. It’s like what now?
Good luck getting a house! We bought the first one we looked at and I kind of regret it now. I love the house just wish we had looked at more than one.
Post # 4
Oh yes. And I think it’s pretty normal. Just remember that no matter what Martha Stewart says, there is no such thing as a “perfect” wedding. Your wedding will be great–not because you picked the best flowers or you’re having salmon, but because you’re getting married. That’s it.
(And if you’re anything like me, when I get to feeling like this, I know it’s time to cut the wedding p0rn! Too many blogs and magazines makes me start to go a little crazy.)
Post # 5
This is normal. I remember getting to a point where I just felt done with everything and didnt really feel excited, just stressed. However, this feeling passed. I dont remember when it was exactly but a few weeks before the wedding I just stopped caring so much and LET GO of a lot of things and feelings and I was finally REALLY excited and it felt SO close! It was part conscious effort and part that something just changed inside of me. I think its important to remember that your wedding is just one day of your lives and that you WILL have a great day and make great memories even if things dont go as planned. Things wont be perfect, but they will be what you make of them! Good luck and best wishes – Im sure everything will be fine – just remember that this feeling wont last forever!
Post # 6
You’ve got a lot on your plate! But I agree, what you’re feeling is normal.
My husband and I got engaged in August of 2009, went under contract in January to buy a house, got married in March, honeymooned in April, and closed on our house in May. There was a lot going on, and while in retrospect it went by pretty quickly, each moment felt completely filled and overwhelming.
But I got through it and you will, too. Just try to enjoy the details. Try to find peace in the planning. It’ll help.
Post # 7
Thanks everyone! I’m feeling better 🙂
Post # 8
I think I hit a similar phase around the same time. Once you hit that 30 day mark, you’ll probably get excited again. I know that at 80 days, I felt like I was stuck – everything was either done/contracted or it was too early to do anything else.