- 4 years ago
Okay, so here’s the deal. My SO bought a house in June (and now we’re living together), and we’ve been discussing marriage and getting engaged since last February or so. We both have birthdays in April, and he said he’d probably propose just a little after that. Since that’s been creeping up, I’ve been trying to talk to him about it and discuss rings, etc. All of a sudden he seemed like he wanted to wait til the end of the year. He explained that his parents had been acting like he shouldn’t have “rushed into” buying a house and he doesn’t want them to feel that way about our relationship. Okay, fine. After a little more discussion, it came out that he was under the impression that you get engaged then married like a month later (WHAT???). After explaining that I’d need at least a year to plan a wedding, if not longer, he acted like it might be sooner. But he’s shown little to no interest in looking at rings or anything. I don’t know if he’s going to keep putting it off, or if he ever really thinks about it anymore since he “has me” all the time now. He wanted to have kids in about 3 years and be married a bit before that. I don’t know how long he thinks he can wait. I know it’ll happen; I just wish he’d actually talk about it. I have a ring budget in my head but I don’t even know what he thinks about anything or if he thinks about getting engaged at all. We’re stable financially and emotionally, aside from normal bickering and making odd work schedules work for us. He’s not romantic, and hasn’t seemed like he doesn’t want me to know around when he’s going to. But he’s giving me nothing to go off of. Are we back to after our birthdays? Is it still going to be around our anniversary? Is he going to attempt to find a ring on his own?? Good grief, I hope not. I just want to feel like we’re getting close. I kind of know we are, but I don’t feel it.