Maybe I've been out of the game so long…

posted 3 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 3
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9220 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@wonderingbee:  Yes, probably every woman on the planet has had this experience.  Some guys are creepy.  Just ignore him in every way possible (don’t “friend” him), he’ll get the hint soon enough.

Post # 6
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9220 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@wonderingbee:  It’s not you.  Sounds like he’s not content in his marriage and is looking around, testing the waters to see if any woman will reciprocate his interest.  The best thing to do with men like that is steer clear of them. 

Post # 8
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1092 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Hmm it sounds to me that maybe he was checking you out. I often sometimes have that problem since I to have been “out of the game” for many years lol. But yeah that’s what it sounds like to me.

Post # 10
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1092 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@wonderingbee:  I’m not 100% sure but from what you said that’s what it sounds like to me. I don’t know him but usually men don’t stare at women then look away quick when they get caught for any other reason, at least I don’t think so.

Post # 14
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1157 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@wonderingbee:  I wouldn’t think anything much of it at this point. I spent a little over a year in Cuba and these ppl hug and kiss you on your cheeks if they know you or not. I was studying there and I thought it was strange to embrace your professors, the head of department and the cleaners upon arrival.

Maybe it is just his culture. In regards to the looks, I do it sometimes. Not for the “OMG I love you” purpose but sometimes ppl look like someone I’ve met before. Or if a person is really cute or ugly I would look a little longer to try and figure out what feature pushes it over the edge of normal… lol (that might come off a little strange to ppl)

Some ppl don’t believe in rings. Some folks use other items as symbols of their union. Most of the folks in my church don’t even knock up with a ring (I want one tho Tongue Out)

Don’t sweat it. You don’t have to accept the friend request either.

Post # 16
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Bumble bee

I probably wouldn’t sweat it either. I’m not much of a hugger but for some people that’s just their thing, especially if he’s hugging the other woman too. As for the staring, I kind of have a staring problem myself and whenever I meet someone new I have a tendency to stare/study them but I do get embarassed when “caught” and I look away quickly. I think it has something to do with my photographic memory and wanting imprints but it’s harmless and not romantic…something I had to assure my own SO of at one point. I stare at everyone, not just men lol.

Keep an eye (pun intended) on the situation and if more red flags pop up, let your SO know or maybe jokingly bring it up to the other couple but I wouldn’t make a fuss or allow myself to be made uncomfortable because it could be nothing.

I’d say only accept the friend request if he sent one to your SO too.

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