Post # 1
So my fiance used to date a good friend of mine. It’s been a tumultuous few (many) years, but we are all quite close now.
She lives about eight hours away so I wasn’t sure if she would want to come to the wedding. Also, I thought it would be awkward for all parties.
Tonight we were planning a mini vacay together and she asked what dates wouldn’t interfere with the wedding. (She didn’t know the wedding date yet). So finally I told her the date and asked her if she would come, and she said yes.
I’m stoked she’s coming, and I’m sure my fiance will be excited since he already asked if I was going to invite her, but I don’t know how his family will react to her being there.
They dated for three years, so she knows his family really well. They know she and I are stilll pretty tight and they know she and my fiance talk on a regular basis, but I’m just worried about how they will react when they find out she’s coming to the wedding.
Any suggestions on how to tell them?
P.S. I know the situation is unconventional, but I’m not looking for judgement. Just advice!
Post # 3
I think it will be fine. I went to an exes wedding and it was a blast. We have a lot of mutual friends, we stopped dating ages ago and both have clearly moved on. It’s not like the situation was primed for drama–just like you guys. You are all friends and so it should be fine. His family will be happy to catch up and will hopefully restrain themselves from saying stupid things like “How does it feel, watching your ex marry another woman?”
Post # 4
It sounds like you are all mature and positive people… As long as the three of you are secure in your choice, try not to concern yourself with others’ opinions. Most of those people will take their cues from you, your Fiance and the invited friend.
Post # 5
Thanks for the advice! I suppose it’s not unheard of for someone’s ex to attend their wedding, I was just freaking out a little bit there. Thanks ladies for talking me down!
Post # 6
Yeah, I don’t think it’s a biggie either. You all sound like mature and responsible adults, dealing with quite a common scenario. Don’t worry!
Post # 7
I invited my fiance’s ex wife to come to mine. She even went to my dress fitting with me. I adore her. I think so long as you’re comfortable with her there and he is and she is, then what other people think doesn’t matter.