Maybe we should just elope…?

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
1177 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

We had to cancel our wedding and went to the courthouse (daughter had urgent surgery) and four years later we’re doing a vow renewal because I regret not having real vows and photos.  Honestly, I don’t regret not having some big wedding, just those two things.  Only you two know what you may or may not regret.  Even our vow renewal will be super tiny (under 20 people).  


Maybe downsizing the wedding is what you need?  Do you want to marry sooner?  See how much money you can pull together, slash your guest list, and do it this fall?  Or Christmas season could be pretty?

Post # 4
1951 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@MojitoMeg:  Girl, I hear ya! I just wanted to be married to my FI as quickly as possible. We did consider elopimg, but it would break my parent’s heart if we did it without them. The thought of having all of our friends and family together is what really convinced us to have the wedding. We’re sticking with 75 people, and have spread the planning out over a year. The stress has been so low, and we’ve been steadily knocking stuff off the list. We’re 7 months out (to the day!) and while I’m excited, it’s actually kind of fun to be in this position. 

So, I would say have the wedding. Wear the white dress. Have someone walk you down the aisle. Take pictures with the people you love. It sounds like you really want to have them there. Don’t worry, time will fly!

Post # 5
11300 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

I am a month out from our wedding and I wish I could cancel everything, get our money back, and just freaking elope.

Post # 6
119 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I had th same feelings! So we scrapped our small June ’14 wedding and are getting married on the beach this September. I couldn’t be happier about it!

Post # 7
2355 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I don’t think ( if you are like me; this may not be true for you ) you will regret not having bridesmaids and decor and all the pomp and circumstance, but I think you will regret not having some family there.

Can you compromise? Get married in view of your family at a local park or at someone’s home, have dinner/lunch/whatever with them, and then fly off to your sunny beach?




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