Post # 1
Ok, so…RSVP date has come and gone. Why do people think it is ok to say ‘maybe’? And what is with the verbal yes’s?
We have 19 verbal yes’s and maybes! Thats 2 full tables! We have people who “haven’t decided” if they are bringing a date! They had a deadline! Is it really a hard decision? Are they going to try to find someone new to date within a month so they can bring them to our wedding?
How hard is it to stick a card in an already stamped envelope and send it on it’s way? Especially if you have already given a verbal yes (not to us, but to our parents)…you have made your decision! Mailman comes DAILY!
FI wants to number our tables 1-14, then have one remaining table without a number. It will simply have a sign that says “delinquents”! All late RSVP-ers will sit there, no matter who they are! Even if their dates are sitting elsewhere!
Wow, thanks for the chance to vent.
Post # 3
I think FI is dead on, personally.
Post # 4
I counted verbal yeses as hard yeses. People thing that they are done if they tell you they are coming… so don’t wait on those to come by mail.
Post # 5
That’s rough! are your verbal yes’s likely to change their minds? we got to a point where we just took verbal yes’s as firm yes’es. we have a lot of oot guests – some have made travel plans but never actually sent an official rsvp. we’re just counting that as a yes.
could you tell them that no +1’s are allowed since they missed the deadline (in a joking manner!?) that’s crazy if they haven’t found a date yet!!
Post # 6
I’m so sorry. I’m really nervous about the whole RSVP thing. I just don’t see some people actually taking the time…we may end up with a “delinquent” table as well.
Post # 7
The thing about the verbal yes’s that is making me nervous is that we have heard them all second-hand. And at least 2 have become no’s. At least we are all learning how not to behave when we are invited to future weddings!
Post # 8
I have been so surprised by the people who still haven’t RSVPd yet. Ours were due over a week ago, and we’re still waiting on about a third of them. I sat down and looked at the list of people we’re still waiting on, and most of them are family and adults! I sort of expected it from my irresponsible friends, but not from my aunt who lives three miles from me.
Oh – and if you think a verbal “yes” is bad, how do you feel about a text message “yes”? I’ve gotten three of those.
Post # 9
how about a phone / email tree to the delinquents so you get it from them first hand? rsvp date has come and gone.. so badgering is totally allowed (at least in my books!)
Post # 10
We haven’t counted ANYONE that we haven’t received our response card from. My FI and I are gonna steal your idea for the delinquents table!! We may have to have two or three though… I hate the verbal no’s too.
Post # 11
I am really lucky in the sense that I only had 3 outstanding at the deadline. But I love, love love your idea of calling them out at the wedding by sitting at the “deliquent table” I know it could never really happen but it sure makes you feel better just thinking about it!!! hahaha!
Post # 12
I had one person rsvp that she was bringing a date, but didn’t know who and then emailed me a week before the wedding to say she still wasn’t sure and finally emailed me 3 days before the wedding to tell me the name of her date. Seriously?
I was surprised when, after sending a text to one of my cousins who is notorious for not rsvping and usually texts instead of calling or emailing, Mr. Text Message Himself actually called me to tell me he and his girlfriend would be coming.
However, I think I have you all beat: the mother of the groom, my now MIL, never sent in her response card and around the time of our deadline she was actually questioning when and even if she would be there. (note: DH and his mom are very close as he is an only child and she a single mom. granted they are not as close as they used to be.)
You will also receive a lot of late response cards. Most of our deliquents actually sent theirs in after an email prompting them to rsvp.
Post # 13
I also counted my verbal “yes”s as actually attendees, although I talked to the people myself. After I talked to people, I assumed they wouldn’t send anything in, because they thought i knew that they would be there.
If I were you, I’d check in with people via email/phone and just let them know that you need an official answer from them. You could always say that you need to give an official count and go from there. I hated that I had to call people myself (I figured the card would be enough) but some people just need that extra push.
Post # 14
I think I’d call or email to confirm, and even maybe ask them to send it in. I do love the delinquent idea though!!!