Post # 1
Hey guys. Ever since I’ve dated my boyfriend, I’ve had frequent cold sores around my mouth. I’m also just now developing two ulcers. I never used to have these issues 1.5 years ago. Has anyone had this problem and gotten it tested or is it not something to worry anout? I think it is rude and a bit premature to start pointing fingers at my bf and tell him he needs to get tested but a week after we first got down to business I developed mono and tonsillitis. Not sure if any of this is related. I am ignorant on this topic. I have gotten an appt but it won’t be til after the new year. He has had questionable hookup buddies in the past. They were certainly not exclusive and it concerns me because of the amount of irritation around my mouth. We are not having vaginal sex, just oral. Thanks.
Post # 3
First off, make an appoitment with your doctor and tell him about the mono, ulcers, sores, and tonsilitis. Until you see your Dr and your ulcers are healed, do not give him oral. Get tested. If it is nothing, then you have a clear reason not to worry. If not, you need to be able to put your health and life first. Cold sores are so uncomfortable and those other issues are not fun either 🙁 Don’t make this about stressing over him. Put yourself first and take care of it. I hope it is nothing!
Post # 4
Thank you! Also..no idea why this is in the proposal board.
Post # 5
Many people have the virus in their body that produces cold sores. Most of the time it remains dormant, but for some people it shows up and produces sores. If I am not mistaken, anyone who has had chickenpox at any point in their lives forever lives with this type of herpes virus. Like with any kind of herpes, when there are present sores it is possible to pass it from person to person through contact. That includes oral sex. You could pass a mouth cold sore to other parts of the body through physical contact. The last thing you want to deal with is herpes in other areas, so avoid sex of that sort when there are physical sores. You want to avoid coming into contact with the lesion, wherever it is visible on your body.
As for tonsilitis, those are simply tonsil stones, correct? Those some people just get. Gargle often with salt water (hydrogen peroxide later), remove the stones with a q-tip, and just keep an eye on them.
If you are having issues with your throat hurting, yes, it could be an STD, like a chlamydia or gonorrhea infection in your throat. Those are treatable with antibiotics. Women (and gay/bi men) are also more prone to having HPV infections in their throats, which can later become cancer unfortunately, from exposure during oral sex of an infected partner.
Mono is called a ‘kissing disease’ which is spread by mouth to mouth contact. So yes, you could have gotten that from him. It can take a long time to feel better.
Whenever having a new partner, the best idea prior to sex is to get tested. It is always better to be safe than sorry. And always use protection. It sounds like it is too late for prevention, but you should both get tested, and treated, for whatever you might have contracted.