Post # 1
SO invited me out of town to meet some of his family and was soooo excited when I agreed to go. Since we are leaving in a few days (and he hasn’t mentioned it again), I asked if we were still going. He said yes but all we’ll be doing is sitting around their house visiting and stressed how boring it will probably be and how we won’t have time to do anything fun.
I assured him I was okay with hanging out with them regardless of what we do, but part of me wonders if he wants me to back out. I told him I understood if he wanted to go alone and have quality family time but he said (in an unsure way) that he wanted me to go. He’s a nice guy and wouldn’t tell me he changed his mind or maybe he was just giving me fair warning of the impending boredom! I would really love to meet his family but want to feel 100% that’s what he really wants as well. I’m not sure how else to ask.
Anyway, I’m not quite sure what I’m asking here…maybe I just needed to get this out so it makes more sense for my decision.
Post # 3
I don’t know, maybe he’s worried it will be so boring for you that you’ll have a first impression. Or that you’ll whip out your phone to play with (or something, whatever) because you’re bored and then they’ll have a bad first impression?
Not saying that will happen, but sometimes first impressions can really stress people out.
Post # 4
He invited you to go and I wouldn’t read anything else in to it! If he had changed his mind, I’m sure he would make up some lame excuse and not just warn you it would be boring. Because yeah, sitting around somebody’s house and meeting their family for the first time is stessful, awkward, and kind of boring.
Post # 5
@giddystars: he’s probably nervous too. He wants them to like you and vice versa. My first visit to meet my FH’s parents (9 years ago….) was mothers day weekend, something we didn’t realize at first (he’d just moved hom for the summer). I met his entire family that weekend, 2 trips to the same restaurant in 1 day (with each side of the family) and he was rather embarassed by the whole trip (the first thing his cousins husband said to me was ‘pull my finger’ – no joke).
I’m sure it will all be fine and they will love you 🙂
Post # 6
@giddystars: Eh, he’s a man. I would say that he generally feels like it will be boring. He’s not going to try to put some reverse psychology on you. It could very well be that he sees a better opportunity in the near future and doesn’t want to waste the first impression on this.