- 5 years ago
- Wedding: October 2014
I’m putting this in emotional, because I’m not sure where it belongs exactly since it covers several subjects, but they belong together. So here goes!
In 10 days I’m travelling to see Mr. C, we’re long distance and anytime we get to see each other it’s exciting; however this time it’s a really big deal. Normally we go on a vacation somewhere together or he’ll stay with me for several weeks. This time, I’m going to his place and meeting the future in-laws in person for the first time. They know about me and his mom sends cards and occasionally little gifts, but this is the big official meeting!
He’s living with his parents to save money for the wedding and our future. So it’s a little intense because I’ll be with his family for most of the time. He’s got vacation time for part of it and for part of the time I’ll be on my own with them. Keeping my fingers crossed that they like me. I’m planning to get flowers for his mother and I’ve got a toy for his niece – his sister and her toddler aged daughter will be staying there too. His mother always demands to know if he bought flowers for my mom, so I will probably get her another hostess gift, but decided flowers were a must!
In addition to meeting his family, I’m meeting his friends. He’s having a couple gatherings for different groups of friends meeting up at restaurants to introduce me. I met a couple he’s friends with earlier this year when we went to look at wedding venues and apartments, they live in the area we’re moving to.
And I also think I’m getting a proposal.
That probably sounds weird since I’m an engaged Bee. But there is a reason! We got engaged without one.
Mr. C tried to propose on a trip to Vegas a couple years ago, but waited until the last night. (Why do guys not allow for something to go wrong and a bit of extra time!) Last night of vacation, not the time to do it! Drunks on top of the Eiffel tower threw a wrench in it, then at the fountains where we had our first kiss, his backup, they played a horrible country song that was used in 80’s breakfast ads. Back in our room we went to bed, he was down and fell asleep and I cried. The next morning, he told me how badly, just before we left and that he’d been going to propose.
A couple months after that came a ring, an estate piece that was too large and had too high a profile for daily wear, but no proposal, sort of just, “it’s for you” and although he’d said we should start planning the wedding, I didn’t do much. Because, while he’d given me a ring and said he’d planned to ask me, I felt in limbo.
Last year he bought me the second ring after finding out I didn’t wear the original ring much, we picked out the second ring together and it’s more practical for daily wear. He nudged me about starting to plan the wedding, I told him why I’d held off.. He said he felt badly and that he wanted to give me a proper proposal, but on his home turf where he had more control over things. But that we were engaged and that he was serious and we planned a trip to look at apartments and meet prospective vendors.
Earlier this year we selected our date, met with vendors and saw venues. We signed for a number of vendors and he made the deposits. I know some Bees get engaged without a technical proposal and since he was making the deposits, I figured that he was serious but kind of gave up on the proposal idea. I honestly would have been satisfied with him simply saying he loved me and asking me to marry him pretty much anywhere. It didn’t have to be anything special.
But then, about a month ago, I saw on his questionaire from the photographer in the part about the proposal, hid answer, was that it was a disaster and he was planning to remedy it soon!
While talking about my upcoming visit, he said we need to go to the jeweler to get my ring polished up and to bring the box so he can hold onto it because he needs to do something before he puts it back on my finger! Our anniversary falls during my trip and he’s booked us into a posh hotel suite for a couple days, already made dinner reservations for our anniversary, and has been talking about that he wants it to be perfect. He does have a lot of other things planned for my trip. So while I’m sort of suspecting it will be on our anniversary, he could spring it on me at a different time.
So, that’s why even though I’m engaged, I’m looking forward to having a proposal. LOL